if your husband or wife cheats on you.
there is an unmarried opposite gender person who respects you.
would you use the unmarried person help in getting your husband or wife back to his/her senses or leave him/ her alone?
is hypocrisy something to be dealt with by hypocrisy?
share your perspectives if you like.
Dushwari
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Two wrongs never make one right. If one also cheat a cheater than there is no difference between the two. One must always play one's role honestly and sincerely no matter what the other does, because there isn't a better satisfaction than leaving the world with no guilt or regret on your mind in terms of your own actions.
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thanks Brother STP.
i think so too. absolutely, the real test is of the other person when the other life partner is lost on his/her way.
Dushwari
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What with the topic? Are you emotionally related to this “topic” somehow? 
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Basically r u talking about a rebound …or more or less like a baddlaa thing:confused:…personally I 'd say not worth losing your self respect over because sooner or later you will regret it big time …only then its too late:)
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Ask99,
well said. a rebound is not worth the compensation because there is none for a cheater's behavior by a spouse.
Dushwari
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it all depends on as to how much do u love ur cheating spouse, i have seen in a case where this guy i know who loved his wife so much that even though he found out that his wife was cheating he went out of the way to get her back and not only that made her see reasons and i guess now they r one of the happiest couples i have seen (atleast in front of others) god knows if its the same in their house.
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dont treat this ‘cheating’ thing so lightly…we’r talking about it like its not a big deal…jus imagin if ur other half cheats on u, wouldnt ur world toss upside down?..
i had a dream once…while sleeping next to my hubby, i saw him in the arms of another woman…i suddenly woek up and started cring sooooooooo much he woke up with a shock on his face saying ‘wot ave i dun now?’…
…i told him there n then if he dus anything like that ‘mein tumhein choroun gi ni’…he jus laughed it off and sed ‘jub aisa wuqt aaye ga tau deakh lein gein’…
but he was jus joking…
point is…dont even let it go this far and as an answer to ur question…the other half has the right to decide wot to do next and how to go about it…don involve a third person especiall if there not married…seek an elders help…n takin revenge means, ur as bad as them…:nono:
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I can't imagine why a person would cheat in a happy marriage. There must be definitely something wrong in the relationship already, if it has come to cheating now.
When we Pakistanis talk about 911 events, we try to refer to the root causes. Same should be case here. If it has come to cheating, there must have been long-term causes leading to the situation.
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Aashi,
that’s absolutely true.
thanks for reminding this aspect.
best,
Dushwari
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if your husband or wife cheats on you. there is an unmarried opposite gender person who respects you.
would you use the unmarried person help in getting your husband or wife back to his/her senses or leave him/ her alone?
is hypocrisy something to be dealt with by hypocrisy?
share your perspectives if you like.
Dushwari
If somebody is cheating in a relationship, he's not worth my time. If that person, did not give me any respect and went behing my back. I will just leave him and never look back!!
It is somethign serious, something that a man in our society would never accept if his wife chaeted on him. The ladies however make so many exceptions and would be ready to give him "one more chance". He might never do it again but the fact that he insulted me once, would be too much for me to live with!
But that's just me!!
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It is somethign serious, something that a man in our society would never accept if his wife chaeted on him.
But that's just me!!
If, God forbid, my wife ever cheats on my, I would be the first one to look down and into myself to see how I have brought the situation to that low.
There will, off course, be some habitual cheaters out there as well.
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ok but wen u guys are saying cheating...wot exactly do u mean?....cheating as in having an affair?....or cheating as in confiding in a close/opposite gender friend?....and spending time with them...and secretly feeling happy and wishing ur husband/wife was more like him/her???.....
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Cheating as in you know your on a diet, but you still sneak in a few bites of those brownies.
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