Have to give it to bobz. This is a good post. Par pai jan, the problem is what if his wify doesnt reciprocate it? Or when she doesnt maintain the environment of hugging and kissing subah shaam. A lot of women are highly manipulative. Put yourself in OP’s shoes, he might have tried already. She has do something to make him happy as well brother.
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Have to give it to bobz. This is a good post. Par pai jan, the problem is what if his wify doesnt reciprocate it? Or when she doesnt maintain the environment of hugging and kissing subah shaam. A lot of women are highly manipulative. Put yourself in OP’s shoes, he might have tried already. She has do something to make him happy as well brother.
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You are completely ignoring the negatives of his wife while only highlighting the negatives of himself.
Thats the problem with your analysis Professor saab
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You are completely ignoring the negatives of his wife while only highlighting the negatives of himself.
Thats the problem with your analysis Professor saab
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I completely ignore the negatives of my wife, children, and friends also, and focus on positives. Men are stronger, their job is to build, help, support loved ones and not destroy them. Any dumbass can unleash on the weak, it takes a special person to be kind.
[USER=“98137”]Holy Lota[/USER] another lesson from my father, he used to say “Jo bind Gia wo Motti.” meaning whatever is threaded in your necklace is a pearl, meaning dont question the value of the person who you just added to your necklace and look at them positively.
He was a learned philosopher, a UN diplomat and a writer.
Your trying wayyy too hard and it aint making any sense.
In the end, you have to decide what kind of relationship you want to have, luckily I had great role models to learn from. I don’t follow your culture or societal norms so it may not make sense to you.
I never opened this thread to make a team of people who would approve of my actions and oppose my wife’s role. The problem is people think just because someone has posted some issues they are facing in their married life it means they are at the end of the rope and its a do or die situation when it’s not. Also, most of the things you’ve mentioned maybe it had worked for you ( though they seemed mostly fairytales than reality ) but that doesn’t mean your life decisions and thinking is what the world should use as a guidebook to lead their lives. So appreciate your strong feedback on the matter and I hope your family builds a monument for you in the near future for all the things you have done and are planning to do for them. I would certainly visit it if I ever had a chance to visit Canada 
As per Canadian standards, I think I would be below average father and husband. Again the frame of reference is different, I live in a society which is highest in gender equality and you in one which is the lowest. A below average man might seem fairy tales to you. Even a guy like Obama shows humility and class to his wife and daughters.
In this 6 page thread, is it just holy who keeps on seeing ONLY bobz giving his life examples in every other post? O pai jan chaudhry, your life is not the topic here. Kithay sar maaran
Does Obama cook amazing food on a daily basis, cleans the house, makes lunches for the kids and drive them to practice. If he has raised national level athletes than I would be delighted to learn from him like I would pay to listen to Graham and his wife Sarah as to how they raised three Gold medalist athletes who are also academically amazing. If you had any accomplishment, which I believe you don’t then I would love to learn from it.
This is not the first time he has quoted his own post and replied back I have seen multiple posts where he is quoting what he just said and then replying back to himself.. LOL
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This is my first real day off in many and I like to drink and veg out to rejuvenate every once in a while.