i wasn't talking about unmarried couples, i was talking about couples that didn't *want *to get married. put a ring on, throw a party, go on a honeymoon...do whatever to express your love, no one is stopping you. we're talking about the signed
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Hi all, Sometimes, I don't grab the idea/philosphy of weddings/marriages or so called Nikkah. Stop Stop, Don't take me wrong, I explain you what i meant here. Well I admit as being a muslim and i have no right to raise any Q's or futile thoughts against Islam. But i understand everything of Islam from its philosphy, when we take a look to islam rules, mostly things work out in our real life. However wedding sound me more legal contract, Being in a long-term relationship and in a strong bond with unknow from different nature person may harm/disturb our lifestyle. Why we can't survive as a individual in whole life or why Islam forbids relationships? If couple is happy and looking for a long-term relationship, Isn't their trust for eachother is ENOUGH, why they need this legal document? I want to grab the real meaning/philosphy of wedding/marriages and Nikkah Document concept in terms of Islam and society? If we can live a full life with a single wife and vice-versa, then why not we can live a full life with a same person without nikkah? If nikkah is a proof document of a relationship, then why not we have any proof for being Muslim? We have just a kalma and hidden relation with our God?
The legal document acts as a form of stability and security in life. It affirms a couple's love for one another. Many people believe that being married means that they have a greater stake in the communtity and they may be more willing to contribute.
Unmarried cohabitants are more likely to split up compared to a married couple due to the social pressure.
Re: Marriages/weddings/nikkah Just A Legal Contract?
A contract makes sure a couple will not bail without thinking of their responsibilities. Like their children, home, bills, etc. It also reinforces the importance of marriage itself. Its not something to be taken lightly and should be treated that way. You should not be able to walk in and out of relationships at your whim. Thats unfair to anyone who has invested themselves heavily in a relationship.
Before you say YES...you need to think about your future and how it will be affected by this and if you're really ready to walk into someone else's life permanently.
Before you say I QUIT...you need to think about the consequences and how you will take care of your responsibilities so your partner isnt the only one dealing with them.
The Pros outweigh the Cons.
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the ppl who questions the imp of marriage contract r scared of commitment and life time responsibilty. they want all comforts of home n family without the label so they can free themselves easily whenever they get bored or tired of the relation.
also i think many couples prefer live in relation coz once u leave u don't owe other peson any share in ur hard earned property.
Re: Marriages/weddings/nikkah Just A Legal Contract?
It is a contract spelling out rights and liabilities of both spouses. It is not a 'declaration' of wedding. It is an evidence that can be used to claim rights when they are not given or enforce liabilities when they are not fulfilled.
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in islam declaration of both wedding and announcement of living together is imp. thats y there's rukhsati n walima. Ahaedes put special stress on throwing a valima party to show that the man n women who were already in nikkah hav now slept together.So yes Islam wants u not only to announce that u r nikkahfied but u r living together as well. thus diff rules apply for divorce in either cases. n there's a hikma to everything Allah orders us to do.
Actually in Islam you don't need any paper. You do need to declare each other husband and wife infront of 2 witnesses. Marriage is important because it gives us rights over each other which might not be clear in a random relationship.
Yeah i think this is right- no need to sign a paper etc. for nikka; verbally accepting each other with witnesses are enough in Islam (of course, following the proper procedure). Paper is just done today because everything is documented in our times, from your birth to your death- makes everything official and on the records. Signing the nikka doc is like signing a marriage certificate that people do in court.
Are you questioning the institution of marriage? because if you are, there's a lot more to it than a legal contract. yes, it legally (legally in terms of legal in islam) recognizes a halal relationship between a non-mahram man and woman - like it declares that these two people can be with each other. but everything you get from that relationship is more than a contract. people don't love their spouse because it is outlined in their marriage certificate. And perhaps the concept of marriage seems obsolete in a time where people have live-in relationships- although judging from previous comments people still want to get married. In islam though, there is a hadith: if a man and woman are alone, there is another with them- shaytaan (i;m paraphrasing). In islam, we aren't allowed to have a serious relationship outside of wedlock, because it gives way to temptation- if not by action then by thoughts.
Anyway, I know that there are times in our life when we start to question our beliefs. I believe that Islam is the true religion, and even when we question, if we wholeheartedly search for truth, it will guide us to Islam. I hope all the answers you've gotten in this thread have made things a bit clearer for you.
in islam declaration of both wedding and announcement of living together is imp. thats y there's rukhsati n walima. Ahaedes put special stress on throwing a valima party to show that the man n women who were already in nikkah hav now slept together.So yes Islam wants u not only to announce that u r nikkahfied but u r living together as well. thus diff rules apply for divorce in either cases. n there's a hikma to everything Allah orders us to do.
I am sorry but Valima is not what you described it as. The wedding day reception these days is what we inherited from the India culture. In Islamic culture, valima is supposed to be the only reception/party. It is declaration/celebration of nikah, so everybody knows. Nothing to do with sleeping together :P
I am sorry but Valima is not what you described it as. The wedding day reception these days is what we inherited from the India culture. In Islamic culture, valima is supposed to be the only reception/party. It is declaration/celebration of nikah, so everybody knows. Nothing to do with sleeping together :P
Prophet Muhammad SAW married Hazrat Ayesha at age when she didn't reach puberty around 9 yrs of age but she went to Prophet's house at age 11 after puberty. so in Islam Nikkah is the announcement of marriage where u bring in atleast 2 witnesses from each side(of course these witnesses r supposed to go n spread the news). u don't hav to start living together right away. Once the girl moves to the guy's house then comes Valima which is the announcement that now they hav moved together.
if u go thru laws of divorce n khula u'll see diff rules for girls that were just in nikkah but not living with the guy n those who were living with their spouse.
Islam streeses on Nikkah n Valima only. Islam main rukhsati ki alag se koi party nahi hai. kyoon k rukhsati ka ilaan he valima hai. but nowaday girl's family giv rukhsati party to invite their side of families n friends n celebrate on their own/throwing huge parties hav just become cultural norm.