Did your married life turned out as you imagined it to be? How much did you have to adapt? Do you feel your personality underwent any changes?
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Never as I thought it would be, I thought married life would be the end of my days, that I wave goodbye to my unruly wild side and get ready to be a gentleman...
As it turned out i am more wild than ever before and I found a Wife more than happy to accomadate my odd needs, in fact she loves it all. It's like i've bought her childhood back to her.
I did have to adapt to living with people gradually i am still not fammiliar with her fammily and most will still look at me as a barbarian but a usefull barbarian.
My personality has not changed much, I would like to think I am somehow wiser and more softer in persona, but I doubt anyone will notice that.
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I think its all about change...most for the better.
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i'm guessing this is for all members and not just the happily married ones, but i'm thinking that adjusting and improving oneself so the relationship will work is most important. Putting all one's effort for the sake of the relationship. this is for both the man and the woman, we're all flawed
no room for arrogance
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yes we moved to lala land and now we update cheesy statuses on fb.<3
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^:omg:
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Not as I thought it would be. I have had to adapt quite a bit.
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it change you completely. you are sharing everything with your so.
just don't do it. run as far as you can.
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Don't know yet, will find out as soon as this ristha process ends :). Depends on the family some families are very family oreintated and everything is done in a family unit type of setting, I think this would require some adapting/compromising on behalf of the new bahu; in families where you are on your own and living by yourself with a new spouse I think personality wise you might be able to keep yourself intact more so versus in a family, however, I think it does require you to be more mature either way because you have a new fold of responsibilities and expectations.
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I hate the idea of having to share my room and closet.
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were any of you affected by inlaws after marriage? i guess this is mostly for the women...i mean severely affected? say an evil sister in law who literally cries buckets over everything you say?
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LMAO. 
Oh no, nobody here has been adversely affected by in-laws …not in the least bit. The threads in this forum are predominantly about in-laws that play nice like achay bachay.
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LOL, ok i'll go look at the threads then...but nahi seriously...i want to know if u felt maybe you didnt marry the right guy...or maybe it just wasn't worth it...i guess i just want to know whether some of you found marriage to be harder than what you expected.
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I guess it takes an year to 2 yrs to understand ur SO and his/her habits, things like when u have to just remain quite and ignore, what is it that makes ur SO angry, what he/she doesnt like etc....mine was my first cousin and our engagement lasted for 5 yrs appx but still it took me an yr to understand him. But Alhamdulilah im happily married and actually it turned out better than what i expected. All u have to do is to learn to compromise a little and try to avoid what ur SO doesnt like. If both partners understand this then it becomes the best part of ur life :)