What does a perfect marriage look like in ure eyes? What ingredients does it include?
What if the partners are not good friends and they lack understanding and security and dont get along that very well (guzaara). What can they do in order to promote and develop these missing things?
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my goodness chocolate bar, you want us to write an essay!
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^^ 
Well in an ideal marriage it is expected to love eachother, care and to have respect for eachother, including ones feelings. Snickers, things like love and the things that u mentioned need time to develop. It’s not like clicking a button and boom!
Spend time 2gether, watch tv together with both of u cuddled under a blanket, do favours for eachother, surprise eachother with little things and talk - whether about the garbage can or the neighbours cat.
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The single word that describes the perfect marriage is PARTNERSHIP! This implies mutual respect, mutual admiration, mutual goals whatever they may be.
There is really nothing else to say on the matter. I mean, if a couple isnt good friends, have differing goals and expectations, the only thing that will make things better is to strive toward a solid partnership.
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I completely agree. 
Well I don’t think you can force yourself to become friends with someone if you two just don’t get along for whatever reason.
If you have been married for at least a few years, and you’re not good friends with u’r spouse, lack understanding/security, don’t get along that well, then after a few YEARS of trying, why would you keep on being married to that person? To make society happy? It’s certainly not good for any kids in that marriage. Because when a couple “lacks understanding” and “don’t get along that very well”, there will be regular arguments in the house, and there will definately be tension whenever both are together. And believe me, children aren’t that stupid…they can sense when their parents are unhappy together.
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The fire will die after couple of years and it will be same ol routine. You have to find to keep the fire going. Therefore, you have to find activities that are out of ordinary and fun for both of you (stag shop comes quite handy here).
If you have respect and understanding issues then you have to resort to techniques so you can understand each other better (for example increase communication).
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I dont think any relationship is PERFECT. THere are ups and downs. The key word is to understand the other person and make sacrifice to keep the relationship going. That applies for both the partners, not just one. If there are more downs than ups, then both of the partners need to sit and talk about the issues.
Important thing to make the relationship work, is to remember the good times and bring them up when things are down. Remember what other person likes, and share gifts, complements etc.
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I agree! a perfect marriage is a combination of love, respect, understanding, compromises, and the list goes on and on.
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:k: Partnership is the correct word… not obedience, submission, conquest