So i found this on sliceoflemon.com & found it really interesting, ill post the questions here:
If you ARE married: What are three of the toughest challenges you and your spouse faced during the first five years of marriage? If you’ve been married for less than five years, what are three of the toughest challenges you’ve faced so far?
If you ARE married: Name three things you wish someone told you about marriage before you tied the knot.
If you ARE NOT married: What are three of your biggest fears or concerns regarding marriage? What are you looking forward to/excited about regarding married life?
If you WERE married: What do you think were the three biggest factors that contributed to your marriage ending?
If you live with your partner and DO NOT plan on getting married to him/her: What are your three main reasons for choosing not to wed?
If you ARE NOT married: What are three of your biggest fears or concerns regarding marriage? What are you looking forward to/excited about regarding married life?
If you WERE married: What do you think were the three biggest factors that contributed to your marriage ending?
If you live with your partner and DO NOT plan on getting married to him/her: What are your three main reasons for choosing not to wed?
Biggest fears or concerns: deception and suffocation. Being deceived or being forced to give up who I am.
I was married and the contributing factors to my divorce were: deception, suffocation and in-laws.
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If you ARE married: What are three of the toughest challenges you and your spouse faced during the first five years of marriage?
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letting an outsider opinion weigh in on family matters
not sweating the small stuff
tack of constructive arguing
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If you ARE married: Name three things you wish someone told you about marriage before you tied the knot.
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I was given tons of bogus advice but I wish someone had told me these...
older doesn't necessary mean wiser
never leave parenting to others
I had heard when you marry a person you marry the whole family but I didn't realize how much of an impact a person personality has by the relationship he/she has with their own parents and siblings.
If you ARE married: What are three of the toughest challenges you and your spouse faced during the first five years of marriage? If you’ve been married for less than five years, what are three of the toughest challenges you’ve faced so far?
when i was married, the top three challenges:
1. developing an understanding; working within your new role as a wife, a daughter in law and giving importance to both families
2. compromising for the sake of your relationship without giving up/compromising who you are.
**3. dealing with my in-laws and their whole khandaan. **
If you ARE married: Name three things you wish someone told you about marriage before you tied the knot.
1. to wait longer to know the guy inside and out/verify and background check them (especially in an arranged marriage situation) so that you dont have crazy surprises after marriage that are hard to contend with.
**2. there are no fairy tales, and marriage is hard from day 1.
***3. never compromise your personal values/beliefs for someone, or one day you wont recognize yourself.*
If you WERE married: What do you think were the three biggest factors that contributed to your marriage ending?
1. my in laws and their khandaan
**2. my ex husband always expecting me to compromise but never met me halfway on any issue. i always had to bend to his/his families wishes to a point where i lost myself in the process.
***3. emotional/verbal abuse and hostile living environment *
If you ARE married: What are three of the toughest challenges you and your spouse faced during the first five years of marriage? If you’ve been married for less than five years, what are three of the toughest challenges you’ve faced so far?
1) Getting him to fully, 100% hold up his resonsibilities and be independant rather than depending on me/his family members
2) Understanding each other.. We both had issues in the first year or so
3) **Both **of us not getting worked up over the little things/arguments
If you ARE married: Name three things you wish someone told you about marriage before you tied the knot.
1) There's always someone interferring and making issues out of absolutely nothing/irrelevant things. The trick is to pock your battles and ignore the bull$h!t..
2) It's hard work (I knew this already but there are some things you need to hear more than once)
3) Once you have children, you're marriage will never be the same again (not in a negative way)
AH, I have such an amazing husband and I am so lucky.. Allah tallah has blessed me with the other half of myself. I pray all my sisters are blessed with loving, caring considerate husbands.. aameen.
I am not an easy going, eaisly adjustable person so yah when i do think about my marriage i really do hope and pray i can find someone who has a similiar lifestyle otherwise it will be very hard for me. 2nd would be the fear that if he turns out to be slow/dull kind, i’ll be pissed all the time and last bt nt the least, he better not be kanjos warna my life is doomed for sure :(.
Now what i am looking forward to? Hmmm. Well its kinda funny but i cnt picturise myself in the role of a wife so that in itself be very interesting to discover :p. Also i believe alot of people r gonna get shocked because i m gonna make a damn good wife iA so that too. Last but not the least, i think if i get a good match, my parents r gonna be the happiest. Rite now perhaps this is what they want the most i.e to see me settled in life with a good guy :).
Interesting topic :k: It made me think! Otherwise i m done replyin in any topic at all within secs but this took good 5 mins :D.
and last bt nt the least, he better not be kanjos warna my life is doomed for sure :(.