hi everyone, my last post got locked because of confusion between my and zero69cool usernames that is because he is my friend and i was referred by him to this forum and i was using his pc hence all that confusion but here is my question.
so its time for me to get married forced by mum to get married fast I am 22 and she asked me if theres any girl you like i said no; and it’s true. so she starts a hunt of her own, and finds a girl who is the only cousin back in pak who, you can say is in my age circle. so she is good looking and everything, but i don’t know I wanna say no but ethically it would be wrong to reject someone since my mom has already talked to her mom, I am mean what if a girl did that to me i would feel bad. so I was talking about this to a friend of mine and he said it’s not her fault that your expectations are high . plus what if I try finding again I don’t get anyone like her.
I don’t know I’m confused
So gimme somethin to clear my head.
so she is good looking and everything, but i don't know I wanna say no
If she is perfect, why do you want to say no? If you are confused, perhaps you can ask for some time, look around and then if you realise that she is good enough, you can say yes. In khandan, rishtas usually linger on for long because of many factors. You can ask your mom to ask for some time from the parents of the cousin but don't stop them from proceeding if any other good rishta comes for the cousin. Perhaps you can make some excuse for the time being (busy in studies, job etc.). Take your time. After you will get to know some other girls, you might find your cousin better and if she is available till then, you can proceed. There is a chance to lose this proposal also but thats the best you can do I think.
What if he loses job right after getting married ?
Purely bad luck then....but when thinking about marriage, one should be working to financially provide for his wife, what happens afterwards is another story
. plus what if I try finding again I don’t get anyone like her.
