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Marriage Sucks…
Marriage is every girl’s dream. The white gown, the flowers bouquet, the party, her prince charming sitting next to her…etc
These are the things that mostly girls concerned about, forgetting the reality behind all of that; their families, their society and first of all, their governments.
All of those are anxious about so much more than simple fairytale dreams. The family is mainly afraid of the financial situation of their daughter’s future. That’s why they tend to give extraordinary conditions for their daughter’s future husband. They want him to be healthy, wealthy and from the same nationality and race.
The big “NO, NO” in their daughter’s husband is to be poor or even with simple financial condition. The second big “NO, NO” is to be from different roots. The third big “NO, NO” is to be from different nationality or race. They assume that these conditions are the ones which make their daughter’s future better. They forgot or pretend to forget that marriage is a matter of two people only and the acceptance between both. They judge their daughter’s future and marriage to be theirs and she has nothing to say about it.
An example of the situations we have in our “Middle-East” society, one of my closest friends, who is 26, which means that she is an adult who can decide for herself and her future. She wanted to marry a colleague of hers who was from an Arab country. Her family did not only disagree with their marriage. They even kept her home and stopped her communications with anyone but her friends and under supervision. They refused their marriage in such an awful way, just because he is not from the same country.
I’ve lived this story myself and I’ve seen how it affected her physically and emotionally.
The matter was not only her not getting married.
The matter was her opinion and decision not being respected.
This is the reality of our world that we, Middle-Eastern girls, live in. Our families decide everything for us. Always say “Yes”. Never say “No”. Otherwise, you will be judge as a criminal and kept home for the rest of our lives.
Our society gave itself the right to tell us what is good and what is bad. What is right and what is wrong. Getting married with a poor or simple financial condition guy is wrong. We have to get married with Mr. Richey Rich. Getting married with a guy from different roots is wrong. The right is to get married with the same roots guy. Getting married with a guy from different nationality or race is awful and considered as a crime, who ever does that is punished by the society and kicked out from it.
Our governments did not do any better than that. Actually they did worse. They placed roles that when a female decides to get married with a guy from different nationality or race, they take her nationality and even if they kept it, she doesn’t have the right or her children to live in the country as first class citizens.
Why?!
Why is this happening? they didn’t do anything bad. All she did is wanted to get married with a guy from different nationality. she is an an adult human being with a fully conscious mind. she is not out of my mind nor still immature.
Why are they trying to take these rights from them , from all the females in the Middle-East?
They relate this to Islam just to take control of our lives, but when it comes to their lives everything is different.
In our “Middle-East” society, a man can get married with four wives from different nationalities and his children will be keeping their father’s nationality, while a woman cannot give her children her nationality.
When a man passes away, his children from a different nationality-wife are included in his will, while when a woman passes away all her money goes either to the rest of the family or to the government but nothing for her children.
This is really a questionable issue that we need to think about and take an action.
Our families, societies and governments destroyed the image of marriage, that we can say “Marriage Sucks”.
We might have some understanding families, but they are not enough to stand in front of the whole society.
As an individual, I decided that I will get married with the right gull no matter what her financial condition, her roots origin, nor her nationality is.
TOPIC OPEN FOR DISCUSSION
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