and what if its not materialistic reasons either…all the guys are well educated and have really good jobs, come from well off decent families but its just that you still have some doubts…and you seem to have created this image of someone in your heart/mind and you want the guy to be somewhat similar to that image…and lets say you seem to have been interested in someone else you know you can’t get that person so you just want someone slightly similar…to be on the safe side.