thats a tough one Reha. I guess if the parents are really in-tune with their kids and know what type of person has the right qualities then no problem. But all too often it seems that family alliances, status and income and physical traits are more heavily considered than the less obvious ones which would better define who would make the best spouse.
But even in completely arranged marriages, dont the couple get to sit and talk together a little? And cant they ask questions of each other even if its through an intermediary? And wouldnt this be something to push for considering its importance? I mean, I keep seeing threads on potential rishtas who are too tall or not tall enough, who dont make enough money or are not physically jaw-droppingly gorgeous and I just find this disturbing because those things should be on the “list” but way, far at the bottom.