marriage jitters?

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What a difference a year makes, 12 little months.

~Roothay ho tum , tum ko kaisay~
~Roothay ho tum , tum ko kaisay~
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i live thousands of miles away from my parents :crying:

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Its just a case of super stress.

:)

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I know wot u mean...i'm not crying or anything, but i tend to get those guilty feelings like i'm not a good daughter n stuff...

I'll be like 1,600 miles away from my parents and one bro...and on another continent from my other bro, after i get married :(

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hiccup.. some things change, some dont..

Kashmiri.. awww :hug: thats a huge move.. i hope it all works out for u, Inshallah

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What everyone is saying is true. It happens to all of us! I was really depressed and cried a lot before AND after I got married. Alhamdulilah things are better, but I'll admit, there are still some days where I miss my family.

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Thanks hun, Inshallah it will…and best of luck to u too :hug:

I am getting married next week. There will be small party and only a few people will
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Wait till it’s ur turn! :hoonh:
I hope ur wifey nags ur head off!

Sadzzz, my wedding is months away and I already feel like a emotional bum, I’m soooo not looking forward to the weeks prior to the actual wedding.
I guess it’s normal. Waise when my sis was getting married I was the emotional one, she couldn’t wait to move out :-/

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Well, you are starting a whole new phase in your life, doing something you've never done before. A lot of girls cry when that happens.

So you're getting married? Mubarak ho. :) May Allah bless you and protect you from all kinds of evil. Ameen.

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:) You will be getting these jitters all through ur life, you will always be missing ur family and talking about every lil thing u and ur family did together. But you have to be brave for ur hubby, cuz sometimes hubby is not capable enough to handle ur emotion. Girl relax talk to him, call ur mom talk to her. You will be just fine :)

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and I just commented in your journal Sadzz :slight_smile:

I bawled like a little baby the night before my nikah and I had NO IDEA why I was crying…uff! Now every time hubby mentions rukhsati since he is counting down the months (literally) I cannot even describe my feelings!! He thinks I’m not as excited or happy as him at the thought of rukhsati, which I am, but I don’t know how to explain to him all the bundles of emotions that come hurling at me when I hear the word. I know I will be nervous wreck like you.
Hang in there Sadz. I feel ya totally!!! :blush:

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And you will love living on your own. I love my appartment and now that I'm used to living on my own, it would be hard to move back in with my parents! I live 15 minutes (walking) away from my folks too. And cooking, you'll learn it!

When I was married, I was 18, could only make roti and eggs, and snacks like samosa and stuff, but no haandie. I learnt to make salan after marriage. So don't worry about cooking. It's not that hard. :)

Everything will be fine. The most important and real thing is the character of your future husband, because you're supposed to spend your life with him.

May Allah give you a good and fine husband insha Allah. Amien. :)

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This thread has been educational. Kashmiriraindrops is a girl. I always thought she was a boy.

And rukhsarbibi is a young girl. I thought she was some old geezer with grandchildren.

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i second that PCG, i thought the sme especially abt rukhsarbibi.

newbie here!
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I can't remember if I was very emotional. Of course, I knew I wouldn't be living too far from my parents and brothers, and I was excited about setting up our new place.

I do remember the stress tho. It wasn't even about coordinating all the wedding stuff. It was a lot about coordinating all of the people and what they wanted without insulting anyone or leaving everyone out. Hearing all of it was really stressing me out cuz there was so little I could do. In the end, I just sort of had to breath deeply and let the elders handle it and themselves.

Actually I think part of the problem is also being the center of attention and seeing all ofthis work and stress being caused by you. Of course, it's not that at all, but I did used to feel so responsible for the stress, conflicts, financial concerns. And that did make me wonder if I was worth all the trouble. It also made me ask for less. But I realized how much all of it meant to my parents -- they really wanted the wedding done a certain way, and despite the concerns, they were actually enjoying it.

So don't worry. It's all part of the process of getting married, and inshAllah you will be happy and content in your new life.

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wow so many girls with the same problems :) makes me feel ok now...

im much better this week.. past few days have been good.. ive tried my best not to let things get to me and trying my best to keep calm... its working so far..

me leaving in 5 days... yikes!!

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:smiley:
So in the thread about asian parents and education…u thought i was a guy? Hmm, ok!