My friend has been having some problems in her marriage…and I am newly wed so I don’t know how to help her…i know there are a lot of ppl here who have gone through so much…and i don’t want to give her the wrong or bad advice…talking to ppl here will give me ideas of what to say and what to do…so plz help out.
Well she has been married for several years…and since the start of her marriage she feels like she has given up her life…like literally given 100% into the marriage…while the hubby has been off and on…sometimes he will show his love and other times he won’t seem to care. But recently she has been having other feelings. He gave her his password for his email a long time back and forgot about it. She one day went in his email and saw an email supposedly from a boy…but it wasn’t it was from a girl…well this happened several days…and she kept secretly reading his email. Until one day she read his email and at the bottom of the email it said…“i misssssss uuuu a lot”. And then the girl calls and talks to my friends husband…and she has her mom talk as if she is calling casually…but her husband said to my friend that oh her mom called because she wanted to send you some gifts…or some shirts from their factory. Which she never got yet…and was never asked if she even wanted it. Anywayz when my friend confronted her husband about the email the girl stopped sending emails…and when she confronted about the phone calls the calls seemed to finish. And another past event…he specially called this girl and sent her an egreeting on valentines day…
Now after reading all this…what do u think that my friend should do? She is really confused and hurt…
dump his arse....
.. speaking uber seriously..
rather dump it into the river!!!
ur friend should really confront her husband. she has to tell him that it's hard for her to deal w/ all this, and if her husband prefers the affection of another woman over her , she HAS to know of it. if he's man enough, he will admit. and then, she REALLY should dump his arse, speaking uber seriously.. !
Not enough information in your post.
Emails and phone calls but still it does not confirm that he is having an affair. b/c the only object ur friend found was "I miss you".
I can not realy recommend you anything b/c I have never been in a situation like this + I am not in ur friend's shoes to know what else is going on in their lives.
BUT I will not be taking any affair in my hubby's life easily. He won't be able to get away with it.
depends on the extent of affair and the situation. Like I said before it is not enough information to draw any conclusions.
but yes, If it is just limited to phone calls and emails I will try to talk it over. Even though I probably will never be able to love & trust him again the same way, marriage will become just a commitment.
If affair invloves physical passion I will divorce him. (but don't suggest any of these to ur friend).
I am sorry about your friend. I hope things work out for her.
depends on the extent of affair and the situation. Like I said before it is not enough information to draw any conclusions.
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i personally think this is totally enough information for ur friend to fire back! she's his wife, she's all the rights to demand if he's sleeping around or watever! Moreover, it just shouldn't have come to this! they're husband and wife, if he's clean then he should've just shared all this with ur friend to begin with.
it really pisses me off how some women just sit back and watch while men walk all over them! she doesn't hav to be an uber b**** and cut off all ties, but she should definitely hold her self respect and let her husband know that she CAN'T deal w/ his infidelity. she needs to leave and find her own space!
the LAST thing id advice for ur friend to do would be to FORCE her husband into not seeing his friend, or communicationg w/ her. that will just fuel the argument and her husband will rebel and she'll cont to get hurt in the process....
you really can't force anyone in this life to return ur affections!
Tell him it's unfair for them to be living like this, and that it's actually totally out of order for a married man...and ask him whether he would put up with his sister being in the same situation.
i still stick to my initial decision.. dump his arse..
this is the worst thing he could do to her.. cheating is a bad habit and bad habits don't go away that easy.. unless he goes through the pain of losing her..
She should talk to him, confront him about how she feels, I'm sure she isn't going to be happy! If he doesn't decide to talk back with her about this, then she should ask him if he'd rather go on with his life like this or is he happy to give her a divorce.
^ ya no kidding....that is what angers my friend too....but one thing is that when a girl knows that a guy is married why in the hell does she have to send him stuff like oh i miss u....back off....and i found out that the girl that talks to my friends husband...is getting married...so had an arranged marriage set up....then why is she after someone else's husband?
Speak to girls mom. If this is actually an affair, I bet that the mom is unaware of the fact that the guy (your husband) is actually married (well, unless he is having an affair with the pair)
She should talk to him, confront him about how she feels, I'm sure she isn't going to be happy! If he doesn't decide to talk back with her about this, then she should ask him if he'd rather go on with his life like this or is he happy to give her a divorce.
No women should be treated like this.
yeah no lady should be treated that way , but men are just hooligans sometimes