Marriage Ideals

Lifestyle Relationships
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Ok so…I was raised with all these ideas and concepts, both desi and non-desi, of what duties and responsibilities a wife has. However, i have found that those concepts have fallen short in practical life…not b/c the ideas alone were outrageous or impractical but rather they didn’t fit the circumstances and the people involved,

Did you have any pre-conceived notions regarding marriage that later on you realized didn’t work? Did you ever feel your marriage was “less” because those ideals were not met?

Also, what is some of the most outrageous and crazy marital advice you’ve ever received?

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No. You were not raised with ideal concepts.

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How do you know

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By your posts.

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A UK based uncle once told me: "never marry a foreign born Pakistani!"

He gave me a hour long lecture after he found me unconvinced with his statement.
At that time, there were some potential options available for me in UK so he was trying to help me by scaring me away from them. :)

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First of all, my upbringing is none of your damn business.
Secondly, answer the question, if not then kindly exit.

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you are late, i already answered your question.

I'm exiting anyway :)

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:rolleyes: What an tactless thing to say. What is “ideal” is subjective…moreover, we don’t live in an ideal world.

Not everything that one thinks…needs to be uttered. Here…that’s my marital advice for you. Actually, no, consider it life advice for all relationships.

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i have to get married yet to answer the question properly:blush:

however tht last bit…when it comes to my nuclear family then nothing outrageous…but i got this really outrageous “advice” from one of my aunts recently----->when u get married yr husband might not like it when u talk to yr family, so you should start keeping the distance from now on so you get used to it in case yr husband refuses:rolleyes:

why would i get married to someone who wouldnt allow me to talk to my parents/brothers?:snooty:

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Apart from “larkiyon ne parh likh kar kia karna hai” I don’t recall any other outrageous ideas that I observed growing up.

Desi women are independant now, they weren’t before. Thats about it.

Marry someone poorer than yourself. That way, they will never look down on you :rolleyes: Jaahils!

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are you a girl .. :expressionless:

lol @ look down thingy .. one of the famous quoet .. ..

if a guy has a poor father then its his luck .. however, if he has poor father in law then its his stupidity .. :d ..

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Well the unmarried have more ideals in mind than the married ones. Why? Because they ain't married. The weirdest advice I have ever received is well European in nature from a Polish Roman Catholic. Repeating it will get me banned.

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I alsways hear this from elders:

biwi ko he ghozara karna parta hai, shohar jaisa bhi ho...

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never ever have a concept of an ideal hubby in mind......

as they say "all that glitter is not gold"

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And the dimwit award goes to...

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not a pro comment i wud say