A class fellow of mine a few years back, referring to one of my single female Professors said that you know, there is no namaz-e-janaza for a woman who hasn’t married all her life.
She must be in her late forties, quite educated, a pretty liberal and good looking lady and is a well known name in the country as well.
I understand that marriage is a blessed and virtuous institution but I donot know to what extent Islam discourages celibacy and monasticism.
What if you can curb/control your urges and restrain yourself from committing fornification.? What if you do not have any sexual desire to start with or a desire to have children of your own? What if one is capable of looking after oneself( financially independent I mean) and is unwilling to let go off her indpendence??
And last but not the least, what if one fails to find a suitable match ?
Marriage is not obligatory but its recommended because its part of human nature to have a companion and marriage is the islamic method to satisfy this human instinct for companionship.
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Is it obligatory for a woman to get married???
A class fellow of mine a few years back, referring to one of my single female Professors said that you know, there is no namaz-e-janaza for a woman who hasn't married all her life.
She must be in her late forties, quite educated, a pretty liberal and good looking lady and is a well known name in the country as well.
I understand that marriage is a blessed and virtuous institution but I donot know to what extent Islam discourages celibacy and monasticism.
What if you can curb/control your urges and restrain yourself from committing fornification.? What if you do not have any sexual desire to start with or a desire to have children of your own? What if one is capable of looking after oneself( financially independent I mean) and is unwilling to let go off her indpendence??
And last but not the least, what if one fails to find a suitable match ?
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Why would it be wrong for a woman to be independent and choose NOT to marry out of her choice. Someone not marrying does not hurt anyone and does not do any damage to the society then why can't a woman saty single if she choose to.
I can also respond to this question in the same way Sher. But I asked this question, keeping in context our religion and I want an answer based on that only. :)
I would reply to your post but just curious, I pmed you a week ago about something and still waiting for your reply. Could you reply me pleaes if possible ?
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I can also respond to this question in the same way Sher. But I asked this question, keeping in context our religion and I want an answer based on that only. :)
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Oh,, you mean you only accept the answer you would like which probably you allready have in your mind. So, to you, all the answers and comments on your questions will be unacceptable if they differ from your mindset. fact is a fact, you like it or not. I mean in your religion you are not even allow to talk to strangers or even go out on your own. what is the point asking question like that when you are not gonna accept any answers.
Oh Sher you are entitled to your opinion. I never wanted you to feel unwanted. Thanks for your reply but hey, what I meant was that I can speak eloquently on that and would probably say what you have stated. But, whats so wrong if I want to hear an answer backed by Quran, Sunnat or Hadith.
See the title was marriage for a women and I cited an anecdote where the reference was made to namaz-e-janaza. So it makes sense asking question keeping in view a specific context. :)
Salman, I would reply to your pm asap. I was away for a few days, hence the delay.
i have never heard of the thing before and it obviously seems like a made up thing otherwise nowhere (as far as i know) has Islam mentioned that a woman who does not marry does not get a funeral proceeding....
besides have u never heard of rabia basri (ra)????
she never married in her life....
and no one in Islam is disrespectful of her....
am sure there r more examples too....
but yes, not only for women, but also for men, Islam prefers marriage....
and that too as early as possible....
just to save the person from falling into immoral activities....
and to promote social values.....
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**What if you do not have any sexual desire* to start with or a desire to have children of your own? And last but not the least, what if one fails to find a suitable match ?
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Is it just me or does that sound umm not normal? Maybe the person needs to go see a doctor or something. As for independence, well unless you're getting married to some backward insecure bufoon, I don't really see why marriage should inhibit independence in any way.
But staying single is not encouraged but I don't think its forbidden either.
Someone not marrying does not hurt anyone and does not do any damage to the society then why can't a woman saty single if she choose to.
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debatable
as for the nomaz e jinaza part i havent heard of it before.doesnt sound true because have you ever heard of Rabia Basri , well she was a very very religious woman and never married by choice plenty of people came to her nomaz e jinaza to my knowledge.