mall: i think that happens only in cases where both had some high expectations from the other and once married realized, oh no, they arent what i thought they would be... should always fall in love with your heart but keep ure head close to u aswell.. the scenerio you have explained is only true for unrational couples who just dont use their heads.. bollywoodish mentality at high levels i think.
i had 2 girl friends who were forced to marry cousins back home, without even having been allowed to talk to them.. we would talk and even though i would tell them to be positive, in my heart i used to think, no way is this working! but they both have been married for 5+ yrs and mashallah, looking at them, u would think it wasnt forced but a love marriage... so much respect, care and consideration... BUT, i think the key was, they both went into their marriages with the belief that they will make it work. they got over the i am being wronged and this is gonna be hell and we shall hate it every day and began their marraiges with the idea, lets be friends and we'll go from there... i think it was a great tactic to use when u already know uve lost the war and try to make most of it... and its cuz of this mentality that their marriages have worked (aside from the fact that their husbands are cupcakes and sugar plums :D )
i m sorry... but i found that a bit too blunt! i get your point... but in no way do we have the bollywoodish kinda mentality. that was a pretty offensive thing to say. yeah... maybe we had way too many expectations... all i m sayin is its all about majority... and go and knock on the doors of majority of paki women (in pakistan purely) and u will find almost all of them are unhappy... i dun wanna argue. just stating the facts.