Well I really don’t know whether it belongs to this forum or not so you could move it to the appropriate forum afterwards.
There is a family who came to America got well established they have their own business and everything. They have six really pretty daughters, but as soon as they hit high school all of them were nikafied one by one, and as soon as after only two years of college education these girls went to Pakistan and did their wedding ceremony two girls one year two girls the following year and so forth…at ages 18+ and they left them to live in Pakistan. Just because these girls were around my age I feel they got married to soon, its kinda awkward being the same age as someone but they are married and you are not. I was just wondering what age is a preferable age, what age should the bride be and how much education should she have on her?
I think it's great, but I agree, a little too early...
I bet these girls didn't even complete their education...
Khudanakhwasta let's say they become widows with children, what then? At least with an education they would have a chance to get a job and support themselves if they don't decide to remarry or can't...
I can't say what age is perfect for girls to be married, but I know it should be after they have a good education...
I think its deplorable what these parents did to their girls. I wonder if the girls had any say in such a decision. Makes me wonder about such "established", "good" families.
I my opinion suitable age for girls is 23-25 years but other may not agree. Sometimes qismat ki baat bi hooti hai... I agree, if possible parents should let the girls get college education. I think it effects how future generations will be raised.
there is no set forumla .. in our culture people still tend to worry more about getting girls married off 'in time' and at times this eagerness may cause them to overlook the importance of education for women.
I think there is no set age for men or women to marry...
Its best for the protagonist to decide when is the right time for him or her to marry.
I think it would do a world of good for the both men and women if they complete their education before tying the knot.
one thing i dont understand is how in our culture the woman has to stop getting education after shes married, its like shes written off the rest of her life married to her home
one of my friends is married, shes 19, and shes going into medicine, shes never had any qualms abt her marriage, shes not pakistani but thats not the point
another one of my friends is engaged to be married, shes lebanese, again not pakistani, but still going onto uni her parents and fiance are totally supporting her and her aims for a good career
none of them were forced into marriage, my lebanese friend married a guy who she fell in love with, and he proposed to her before anyone else, my other friend chose a guy who she knew through family, theyre both very happy and looking forward to uni. whats wrong with that?
if ppl want to wait thats up to them, but if the girls dont mind or want to get married that should also be left up to them, many desis ppl think just bcos they got married at an early age they were forced
in our culture i dont call it forced, more like emotional blackmail from what ive seen of others