So some advice and views would be great from all the Gup’s here..
I normally read and reply but normally don’t post ..
I have a cousin who’s a teacher and she is doing really well and just got her PGCE and is around 24
Now she has met a guy who ticks all the boxes and she is falling for him
He is a family member and lives in Pakistan, only thing is that he has just completed his first year of University and parents want them married this year..
She doesn’t want him to stop studying and no it is nothing to do with gold digging.. she just realises that the quality of life and for his own self satisfaction he needs to complete his studies so that he never regrets not finishing
In the long term it will be good for them both, for the kids and for the lifestyle that they want to lead
Now they don’t know what to do..
Options are
He stays in Pk, She comes back to the UK and they see each other once every 6 months for a few weeks when he or she visits but it means a lot of time spent alone.. which she is not keen to do for 3 more years
She goes over and stays there at the family home..She loves the family and has no issues of staying with his parents and siblings , drawback he studies away from home so if she lives with his parents she will see him maybe one day a week. She willb e reliant on his family to look after her and pay for almost everything
3)As per 2 apart from she lives with him in Uni, which has its own draw backs.. if she doens’t get a job, living by herself in the day and maybe he has a few regrets/bitterness as can’t spend the time with his Uni friends like you normally would
He comes over to the UK and she funds his Studies (relatively expensive) for the 3/4 years. She can work, he can study and will be easier for him to get into a job. Thing is he is dignified and finds it difficult to think that she would pay for him, he wants to look after her not vice versa
He comes and works in a dead end job (taxi/resto) which she refuses to let happen as she knows his potential and wants him to be happy..
Now this is where she needs advice on what is the best option, she is airing on no 4 but have any Gupps done this.. and how does it work with Transferring from the 1st yr of a degree in PK to a degree here..
Will he need to take IELTS and can he study in Pakistan and it be classed as a British Degree
She moves to Pakistan and together they rent/buy a nice place near the guy's University. Seeing she has foreign qualification, perhaps she can teach at the same University.
They guy can come abroad and his parents should help him. The extra finances can be managed by the girl/guy themselves.
I think as a Teaching Graduate she should easily get a job there but then it is adapting to that and I guess the finances will be impacted by both being in Pakistan rather than in the UK
He has a number of siblings also in Private Eduaction so not sure how much his siblings can help
def have him come to UK asap to study there. finishing up school in PK would be such a huge waste of time cuz he will not be able to get a job in UK and will end up in a dead end job anyway (taxi, store) despite having a degree.
It is best if he comes to UK, and then he can work part time like most students do, to help pay for his education. If he ever does have trouble with finances, the girl's earnings are always there as backup, and this way the degree will actually be worth something in the end.
Got another very interesting suggestion for you. If I understand correctly, the guy has started his bachelors degree in Pakistan. There are a lot of Universities that offer credit transfer option which means that he can complete 2 years of study in Pakistan and then complete the remaining 2 years here in UK AND he will get a UK degree.
Obviously you have to research a little on the web for the nitty-gritties, but I think this would be a reasonable option i.e. balances out the time/money. Some Universities that come to mind are University of Bradford, Manchester etc
Good luck and I do really hope it works out for the to-be-couple !!
def have him come to UK asap to study there. finishing up school in PK would be such a huge waste of time cuz he will not be able to get a job in UK and will end up in a dead end job anyway (taxi, store) despite having a degree.
It is best if he comes to UK, and then he can work part time like most students do, to help pay for his education. If he ever does have trouble with finances, the girl's earnings are always there as backup, and this way the degree will actually be worth something in the end.
It is incredibly difficult to live on one salary in the UK. Especially as she will only be earning as a newly qualified teacher. Even his part time work won't cover all their expenses.
Studying at any decent uni in the UK will cost about £8-10,000 a year and even then it's not guaranteed that he will find a decent job at the end of it.
Deepening on what he wants to do, Master's level Engineers from Pak (chem, electronic) are getting work visa's for job here, so when he's actually here he would have little problem.
Accountancy (proper ACCA qualified etc) is also always a good choice which he can do in Pak.
Thanks Pkgrl.. I see your point. .. I have seen a lot of Pak uni grads come to the UK (even med grads) who couldn't pass their exams and were working in dead end jobs..
It's sad because you can see the potential in them but the situation has take it out of their hands..
Snowy.. Thanks that is a really useful idea.. :) Will look up more.. :)
^Those med students must have been really mediocre then. In the past few years I think about 6 new docs (extended family/friends) have come over and no problem passing the registration exams. All got jobs within a year.
Yes, do not do as my cousin's husband, who got a worthless degree from Pak and now can't find any kind of job. But to be honest, had he spent international student fees studying in this country instead, he would be in no better position as he's not really academic.
Oh.. and the credit transfer options are a possibility but don't pin your hopes on it as they are rare even if a university claims to offer them.
