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yes everyone does dream of being in love....i used to dream of love too..allll the time..dont get me wrong..i'm very happy...lekin jab pyaar hota hai and u go thru hell( a lottttttttt of helll)....u wish u wrent in love..coz thers no turning back
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my deepest sympathies to u mate, i know wut its like. great big:hug:from me to u
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i’ll say do wat ur parents want.marry the guy ur parents choose and then on the first night run away with guy u luv that way u’ll be able to satisfy all parties involved including urself:D
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Chupke Se, You're tuned into the wrong channel.
Forget Gupshup, Forget Parents, Forget even the one you love.
Focus on Allah.
Love is nothing but another test from God. Turn to him, He'll find you solutions. He just has to put you through this test, so you would turn to him. Thats all, he wants you to turn to him for help.
After all, didn't he create, You, Your lover, and this concept of love?
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With reference to marriage & parents not agreeing to the person whom one wishes to marry, well, one should not fall in love unless firstly, you are mature enough i.e able to understand what true love really is and secondly, able enough to carry out one's own decision once it has been taken or otherwise that is not love but plain infatuation which is what is happening most of the time & most people think its love. Its due to this parents force their decsions down the throats of youngsters as they know that they are no way capable enough to take any decision but if anyone wants to do it then that person is emotionally blackmailed by our society's demagogue's who demonize anyone who has the strength to question them and then that poor person is ostracized from the society and then obviously that relationship is doomed from the start so in order to face the pharoh's of today one has to be extremely independent and strong and remember this "never ever look back" cause "this, too, shall pass".
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I agree with cresicent and Asim.
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haha GOOd thinking!!! i like ur idea best
yes crescent i know..but i’ve come so far..thers no turning back 
thats wut i did everytime i met a guy…stayed away..i was an achi bachi…but things happn u know..u cant stay away forever
“this, too, shall pass”.
thank u asim…good advice!
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Tell your parents if they force you into a marriage, you'll leave Islam. Blackmail of the highest order. :D
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Chupkese, from your posts you sound like a naive and very young child.......... Im glad , for you, that your parents are taking an interest in your future and taking command were they clearly feel that your decision is not right.
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My advice is better. Parents are like controlling freaks, dictators. So you have to use non violent resistance or have something to bargin with. They value "reputation" too much to risk any big shock, so trading piety in faith for favors is the way to get what you want. :)
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:nono: Legbreak, you have a moral responsibilty to this young child to offer sensible advice.
In other circumstances I would say you have a point:)
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shoot them all , don’t get married , I mean why be sorry. when you ask, it means its wrong. 
Tell them I said so,
:k:
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i hate those kids whom r not satisfied for thier family decision , i mean comeon guz they r our beloved parents . . . . humhari ankh khooli maa ke gud mai , humhara hath tham kar baap nay chalna seekhayah or hum ko is duniya mai jeena seekhayah . . . . or jab hum chalna shoro ho gaie tu bus appni zindage jeena shoro , jis nay hum ko peeda kara us ke mohabat ko bhoola kar bus appni zindage . . . .. its all selfish . . . . . aik mohabat jo hum ko humharay maa baap say hai jab say hum peeda howay tab say or aik woh mohabat jo abhi thoray din howay humhari zindage mai aie howay us mohabat kay leyah appnay maa baap ke mohabat chor dena . . . . . . 
is duniya mai har rishta phir mil jata hai . . . . . har insan phir mil jata hai . . . . . magar belive me agar soocho tu bus MAA or BAAP phir wapas nahi miltay tu in logo ke kadar karna seekho . . . . . jo woh fasla karay us kay agay sir jhooka do . . . . . un ke DUA lo gay tu zindage mai khoosh rah paoo gay agar appni zid karo gay tu shayed waqte khooshi mil jaie magar agay ke zindage barbad ho jaie ge . . . . . .
agay app ke marzi 
P.S Sumjho tu sab kuch hai , nah sumjho tu kuch bhi nahi .
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^^ Woww meray sher , 
Chal esi khushi mai aik ‘Chaat-Papri’ khila appun ko,aur Capri cenema mai aik film bhi dekha 6 say 9 wali, 
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well done janwar!
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Shukran shukran 
woh tu bus kia bolo i love my mom n dad nah tu jazbat bahar jump marnay lagay tu liekh dala 
rainDance - - - - yaar tu karachi aajaa bhai tujh ko har jhaga lay kar awaragarde karnay ka mood hai darling 
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Sit them down and talk to them, tell them everything honestly. If you’re mature enough to get married, then your parents should respect you as an adult capable of making your own decisions. If they truly love you they’ll know when to ‘let go’ and allow you your own life, your own happiness, your own mistakes. Never hide anything and sneak around. To truly believe in what you want you have to have the courage to be open about it. But also be open to listen to your parents advice. They’ve live and experienced more than you. So it is possible that they can see something objectively that you cannot.
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^ good advice from Saimanyc
but also remember that if they truly love you they will also try to stop you from making what could well be the worst mistake of your young little life!
