Marriage and Finances

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Re: Marriage and Finances

@MIAinVA

^Not all women have that attitude. All that we (me and my husband together) earn is OUR money, period.

I’ve seen women saying my money, my money when the men start objecting to their expenses… yeh kiyoon liya, woh kiyoon liya… kiya zaroorat hai? etc etc. Excuse me… but you do earn so you can spend on yourself and your comfort, right?

When do women ask their husbands kay why did you buy this electronic gadget, kiya zaroorat hai? Have you ever seen that? They don’t.

So in such situations, women keep saying my money, my money since they have no other choice. I believe if the men would trust the women and not keep interfering and tokofying on the expenses, then it would be a different story altogether.

I think in those cases there is not shared vision of priorities or not an agreed upon budget and long term plan. If both spouses do the financial planning together, and stick by it there should be no issue. I see it less of a trust and more of a shared strategy and communication of that.

yes one does earn to spend it on oneself and one’s comfort, but what that comfort is, and when can vary. are there shared views on where to vacation, how much to save, where to live, what type of house, when to retire, how much to save for kids education. its not terribly tough, but it is also not just concerns with spending.

in our case we have one checking and one savings account, certain amount from each paycheck automatically goes into savings, beyond that all I care about is if and why funds need to be moved from savings to checking. rest is spend as you please.