for working women:
How many of you women have married men in the fields you work in? How is it going being married to someone who does essentially the same type of work you do?
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What do you mean by how is it going? How is marriage going, or career going? I am in IT and so is my husband. We however work in different fields of IT, but somewhat related. It's going great Alhumdulillah. Just not sure what your asking :) If your referring to maybe getting bored because its the same field....not the case as your situations/workplace/co-workers etc are different.
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I met my hubby building trading floors in IT. We worked together for a number of years before we married and knew each other very well as friends before marriage. I think it has been a huge blessing. We both had/have the same view on kids, that I should be home with them, esp when young. But knowing that I would be able to provide a good living for us if god forbid anything ever happened to him is a great comfort. And knowing what my husbands day is like, being able to talk to him about what he is working on, the frustrations and triumphs of his work life - being able to TRULY understand these things and talk about them - I think is a really wonderful thing for both of us.
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Read this carefully girls cuz im only gonna say this once.
A woman's career = HER MAN
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My hubby and I had the same careers too and we met at my workplace. As far as careers/work go there was no problems. We never really discuss work at home anyway.
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We never really discuss work at home anyway.
lol imagine 2 doctors married to one another talking about their day during dinner.
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My sis is a nurse in peds intensive care. She can be SO gross with the things that she finds fascinating - draining infections, IVs in the head. I'll spare you the rest....
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Read this carefully girls cuz im only gonna say this once.
A woman's career = HER MAN
Read this carefully, cuz im only gonna say this once.
JustARegularGuy = Not Getting Any
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lol imagine 2 doctors married to one another talking about their day during dinner.
They never have dinner together.
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why not? aside from being on different schedules during rangroot bootcamp i.e. residency?
several doc husband-wife couples in teh family, they seem to have every dinner together pretty much
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HAHAHA, my wife is in 'rangroot bootcamp' right now and we spend enough time together. Could we spend more, sure, but it's not like I NEVER see her. We DO have dinner together, when she's on a week of nights, I regularly take her dinner to the hospital and wait till she has a lull and then we eat together. You just have to put the effort in.
As far as grossing out, she's an OB/GYN, need I say more?
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why not? aside from being on different schedules during rangroot bootcamp i.e. residency?
several doc husband-wife couples in teh family, they seem to have every dinner together pretty much
Depends which speciality they work in and how much time they put into their career goals and what social support they get from rest of family. One of my frends was doing residency in neurosurgery, his wife delivered a baby girl and when i went to congrat him (it was like 2-3 hours after delivery), he was like, how did i get a baby, i don't remember sleeping with my wife for a year.
Some couples with kids, who do not have much social support keep their schedule in a way that atleast one parent is at home with kids, so each is working a different shift, so they have dinner together only on weekends.
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Me and my husband are both in the same field though with different roles at our work places. I think its nice that we have the same kind of work but sometimes it can be boring as its all the same
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Depends which speciality they work in and how much time they put into their career goals and what social support they get from rest of family. One of my frends was doing residency in neurosurgery, his wife delivered a baby girl and when i went to congrat him (it was like 2-3 hours after delivery), he was like, how did i get a baby, i don't remember sleeping with my wife for a year.
Some couples with kids, who do not have much social support keep their schedule in a way that atleast one parent is at home with kids, so each is working a different shift, so they have dinner together only on weekends.
for residency it can be a diff thing, there are 5 doc husband/wife couples among my cousins, all fairly accomplished and their lifestyles dont really seem that tough. yeah that had a rough go during residencies, especially those who had small kids at the same time. specialities range from cardiology, obgyn, anesthesia, GI, eye surgeons, radiology etc.
I think the effort to try and balance is the key
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women shudnt work! their place is in the home in the kitchen to make our rotis for us and iron our clothes before we come home 
samaan packing and running for the hills
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LOL to all these people saying women shouldn't work. get over yourself. alot of families can't survive on just one income these days, not if you want to send your kids to a good private islamic school or get into the best colleges. men shouldn't be threatened by a woman working, if so, they have serious insecurity issues and probably are the kind of men who aren't going to find a wife real easily. now if a woman chooses herself to be a stay at home wife/mom that is a different story and should be respected.
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Sara…
Sometimes it scares me how much you know about people.
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I think X2 has summed it up pretty well.
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Sara....
Sometimes it scares me how much you know about people.
but i know nothing about yoU :(