That’s scary and funny at the same time!! 
insha Allah, you’ll find the perfect someone soon!! 
for girls I would say 18-22 is ideal, for guys 25-30
From what I understand your saying a 18/19 year old can marry someone who is 25/26.
This would be my next question, would age gaps prove to be a problem?
Also would a man consider marrying an older wife?
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No - Age gaps are Must
Koi to reason ho - ka larki app ki respect karay
aour khuch nahi to bara samaj kar he ;)
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Whenever one is actually ready i.e. financially somewhat stable, reasonably mature and have their direction in life somewhat sorted. I have seen people in their mid, even late 20s who can't tell their earholes from their aholes. But yeh, one shouldn't unnecessarily delay it, esp if you have found, who appears to be, the right person for you.
From what I understand your saying a 18/19 year old can marry someone who is 25/26.
This would be my next question, would age gaps prove to be a problem?
Also would a man consider marrying an older wife?
Yup that's right.
No. Usually gaps are not a probelm. Infact, I think, they help build good understanding between a couple.
Well, there's nothing wrong with it if he considers it. Infact, it is a sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) to marry a woman older than yourself; [Reference, islamic history reveals that Khadijah (R.A.), the first wife of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), was about 15 years older than him].
really??!! isnt that wrong?
is that the only reason you want respect?? to me that looks like respecting the age gap , not the person.
age gap or not a woman respects her husband for who he is.
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any age after 25, honestly...for various reasons. the really should be in his late 20s or even 30. thats the age when i believe ppl are mature enough to know who they love...just my two cents
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Ideally, at least the mid-twenties. I say that because by then the guy and girl should have a better understanding of whether or not they are they are simply infatuated with one another, or if it's more than that. Also, by at least the mid-twenties, one gains more experience on the value of relationships and how to deal with conflicts/drama. With that being said, I have met young and older couples with successful marriages. It's all about maturity and finding the right person... for some it happens at an earlier age, for others, at a later age.
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I don't think age matters, it all depends on various criteria as it is already stated in this thred. But IMO if one finds someone good then there shoudl not be any reason to keep delaying the shadi part (unless off course ppl are fooling around and are not serious about getting married).
According to our relegion though, time and partners are already fixed by Allah when our qismat is been determined, so why sar-karabi
One more thing age has nothing to do with maturity two ppl can marry at the same age, in similar circumstances, one can be 'chawal' as hell and other can be sensible, all depends on personalities.
I got married when I was 25, and I think it was a good age, lakin me and my hubby are same age, only 1 month apart, and age doesn't earn anyone respect, so I don't know why ppl keep insisting ke larka bara and larki choti honi chahiye, it is not necessary IMO, baqi rab jaan-e.
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Why get married at first place?
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^ Kitne photogenic hain aap!
^ Kitne photogenic hain aap!
haye allah shukriya :)
Some people can get married young, some people should just never get married at all
haye allah shukriya :)
Velcome jee, velcome!
Some people can get married young, some people should just never get married at all
Tru-say! I know someone who never got married - they just didnt see the point in it.
I cringe every time someone says late 20s is the perfect age to get married, or 18 or 19 is. There is no absolute perfect age.
People get married when they feel as though they can handle it..Some people mature earlier, others later. Just because one feels as though they matured at 25 and got married at 25 doesn't make it the perfect age...Some people mature earlier, have other interests and can do the same thing well at 18!
That said, we always talk about the perfect age of marriage as though we are in control of when we get married. We are not. Allah is...And we should be happy and content at whatever age Allah swt permits us to marry. For a very few us the reality will be that they will *never * for one reason or another, and we should be happy about this too, because it is will of Allah swt, and whatever He will for us is the best scenario for us, and we should be grateful this.
well ideally, 13 for girls, i mean as soon as they're mature enough
and i guess what is it for guys? 14? 17?
yeah..
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^ it must have been very hard for you when u were young :)
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Aantee jee...boys don't mature at 17!
I cringe every time someone says late 20s is the perfect age to get married, or 18 or 19 is. There is no absolute perfect age.
People get married when they feel as though they can handle it..Some people mature earlier, others later. Just because one feels as though they matured at 25 and got married at 25 doesn't make it the perfect age...Some people mature earlier, have other interests and can do the same thing well at 18!
That said, we always talk about the perfect age of marriage as though we are in control of when we get married. We are not. Allah is...And we should be happy and content at whatever age Allah swt permits us to marry. For a very few us the reality will be that they will *never * for one reason or another, and we should be happy about this too, because it is will of Allah swt, and whatever He will for us is the best scenario for us, and we should be grateful this.
Great post! :D
What do you mean that you "cringe"?! Do you think that is too young?