If you’re in your late 20’s and will finish your degree very close to 30, would it be wise to keep putting marriage off until your done? Then start looking or keep looking in these 2-3 years The problem is very few would want an engagement in the arranged scene so how does one buy time given your not really ready to get married as your still studying and really who wants to take the risk of studying after marriage.But then you dont want to miss your chances as well.
Idk maybe I am overthinking but if you are still studying and your chances of finishing are late what should be a priority ?And we’re not talking about love marriages here,everything will be purely arranged.So really how much can you trust inlaws that say they will let you continue your education.How supportive will this husband really be. And for you finishing this education is important even if it means you turn 30 in this journey.
I understand that despite what I personally may think or feel,30 is considered old for a desi girl and also understand that most people have finished before then.
Its up to you to deal with what you want in life.
Do you want career family what have you only you can decide.
My advice is to kill two birds with one Stine is get engaged and ask your family that after my education I want to marry.
Having a job now and after marriage is also a confidence boosting.
Start looking now. Some people search for years before they find the right person and you don’t know when the right person will turn up. And the right person In this scenario would be someone who supports educational goals completely.
Start searching when you feel you’re ready to take the responsibility of a family. And make sure the guy and his family are aligned with your career goals especially if you haven’t finished studying. Desi families are such liars. They promise they’ll let you study, and finish your degrees and help you while you work. Most do not.
Only you can decide what your priority is. It’s not only about trusting your husband/in-laws to be ok with you continuing your education. You also have to consider the possibility of pregnancy once you’re sexually active - no birth control is 100%.
I got married in my early 30’s buy met my husband when I was 28. I know plenty of professional desi women who got married after they finished their LONG training plan (doctors who needed to finish residency/fellowship) and were in their early to mid 30’s.
Looking for a spouse and getting married are 2 separate things. If you will be done with your degree at 30, then you should start searching for a potential spouse around 28. That way, even if you happen to find someone, by the time baat pakki/shaadi preparations happen, odds are you’ll be done with your degree. No reason to wait until you’re done at 30 to start the process of looking. But in my opinion, if finishing your degree is important to you, then you need to wait until you’re officially done before signing nikah papers.
Sometimes looking for ‘the one’ is a walk in the park and at other times it’s a case of running marathons over and over again before you find your perfect match. Start early- don’t leave things too ‘late’.