With regards to my two other posts i asked the psyco girl why she delibreatly caused problems for me and she turned around and said if i cared soo much about my wife then why did i say to her that i liked her?..
…the backgorund of the sitaution was that i asked pysco girl to not to tel her boyfrend that my wife rang her cuz it wud hav ended up turing into a big scene n da whole world wud hav found out n said to her go on think abt my marraige, i tot u were a frend…anyway she said the following
“if i cared soo much about my wife then why did i say to her that i liked her?”
i told her that i said that to her to set da boundary n stuf but deep inside i felt guilty and my mind went blank as i sat there thinking of a reason but stil i hav not been able to answer that question…
dont mind but i'll be honest with you... probably it was your lust !
Also, i feel you dont take life serious. Marriage is a very very noble thing. getting married is darn easy, but to make it work... naani yaad a jaati hey, if you dont pay attention to small things... so reconsider your priorities. and set an example for urself that you will bring a change in u such that ur wife starts believing in you again.
ur mad because u think this girl is ruining your marriage...
but u are doing a great job of ruining it urself!
why u told her u like her?
why u play games with people like that?
u are obviously young...
u can have the love of your life back (ur wife)
she is your heart...u need to really really be sorry for the pain u caused...
u need to aplogize to the girl...and tell her u didnt really like her..and tell her how sorry u are for making a mess of ur work relationship...
u need to tell ur wife...u felt nothing for this girl..
tell ur wife how much u love her..thats why u married her..
and probably you or the girl needs to change positions at work...
u can win ur wife back...but only when ur sincerely sorry
…i cant be bothered wit da other comments cuz iv already mentioned in my other post, da reason why i told her i liked her was becuz i wanted to define the boundary and make her aware that we shud only ever remain frends..i never asked her out or anything…n also she is engaged, i expected her to say “get lost i dont wanna chat 2 u” but she carried on n oh that reminds her bf told her at start to not chat to me anymore but she stil carried on, so why shud i take al da blame 4?
like i said i told her i never liked her n hav apologised to my wife n stuff…
only reason i posted this post was to get sum insight in2 why my mind went blank wen she asked me da ques…
....i cant be bothered wit da other comments cuz iv already mentioned in my other post, da reason why i told her i liked her was becuz i wanted to define the boundary and make her aware that we shud only ever remain frends..i never asked her out or anything.............n also she is engaged, i expected her to say "get lost i dont wanna chat 2 u" but she carried on n oh that reminds her bf told her at start to not chat to me anymore but she stil carried on, so why shud i take al da blame 4?
U definately need counselling if u think u were setting boundaries by telling her that u liked her. U just didn't expect her to respond in the way she did, and this is the what has thrown u. If u don't want someone to know of ur feeling then u just simply don't tell them!
