^ It still is rape. It'll be classified as a date rape. Girls continue to be friend because ask a date rape victim & most of the time they don't realize that they have actually been raped. They think that the fact that they knew the person, it was called upon & there is nothing they can do about it.
Some girls go through so much emotional turmoil that it becomes hard to distinguish, especially if she knew the person.
Go ahead, ill see if ican move some of these posts there....
Move the posts & then I'll write something. Don't want people bashing on me already. Waisay I would think that a Muslim/Desi woman would be happy that she finally gets to experience it. Its supposed to be beautiful, not something to be scared of. Again comes "aunties" that scare the hell out of a girl. If I am not wrong there are more than enough "jaahil" men out there as well that make it worse anyways.
Wife have the right to say NO whenever she wants to. It's simple. You have to respect her decision, when she says no, she means NO and you don't force yourself on her - if you do then you are 'raping' her because it's against her wish.
Only a desperate pervert will force himself on his wife.
And i heard in Islam, having sex with your wife aginst her wish is actually raping her and you are ofcourse guilty. Most probably it's true.
People fail to realize that not every issue is black and white in Islam. There are many factors and sides to consider before reaching judgment.
Men who think it's okay to impose sex on their wives are probably depending heavily upon this hadith:
“If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses, and then he sleeps angry, the angels shall curse her until he awakens.”
However, as I said before, not everything is black and white. Assuming that a wife's health is in poor condition and sex is uncomfortable for her...........should she be cursed in such a situation? And what if she's married to a man who **habitually **abuses her emotionally and physically? Should she be blamed for not wanting to be intimate with him? Should she be cursed then as well? What if she has a medical condition that makes sex uncomfortable for her?
A marriage is a partnership which requires mutual **effort, compromising, communication, consideration, and trust. And I would imagine that physical intimacy would be enjoyable for **BOTH partners if there is RECIPROCATION.
Men who use the above hadith to justify marital rape seem to **ignore **several other ahadith in Islam which emphasize kindness to one's wife, displaying gentleness in character, and controlling anger.
And the following hadith should definitely be considered by husbands who think that they have the right to impose sex on their wives:
“None of you should fall upon his wife like an animal; but let there first be a messenger between you.” The Companions exclaimed, “What is that messenger?” The Prophet replied, **“Kisses and (romantic) words!”** (Reported
by Al-Daylami)
And here's another one:
"Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you and your wife has a right over you."(Bukhari, Vol.7, No. 127) The wife's rights include a right to companionship from her husband and fulfillment of her sexual needs.
^Raping your wife or imposing sex upon her is NOTHING SHORT of acting like an animal. The hadith is pretty clear. It ain't rocket science. And Islam also has references for etiquette regarding sex. Knowledge of religion should come from an understanding of various references.........not dependence upon one single hadith.
“The most perfect of believers are those most perfect of character; and the best of you are the best of you to your spouses.” [Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban]
No husband has right to force himself upon any women wife or not related. If the wife persists in saying no without reason for long time. that shows there is a problem in this relationship, so either fix this first before trying without consent or if it cant be fixed for any reason, they both should end this relationship!