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How is that ruining your thread? There are different forms of rape and sorry to break it to you but that is definitely one of them.
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^ sexual fantasies that are played out between a couple isn't exactly "rape."
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Hehe that’s what you think 
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Oh jeez. start a new thread about sexual fantasies/roleplay if you want. we're not talking abt htat here.
^ Lol. Disgustingness at its peak in a way. Khair.
TBH I'd say that's the bigger problem in our community, women who can be too cold and frigid and scared of what their husbands will think if they are too sexually forward or willing.
That is so so so true. Its this whole lame concept of how a woman is supposed to act like a naive cow & be submissive when it comes to stuff like this. I have even seen "aunties" telling young girls yeah let him do everything, don't do anything, it doesn't sound right. I mean hellow its your husbands we are talking about.
Come to think of it our culture sucks at times. (mind my language)
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Why would a women need to act naive for her husband? So she pretends she doesn't know what's actually going on. But eventually the husband will find out she's smarter than how much she's leading on which will only lead to questioning her.
If women are capable and willing, no need to hide it.
Oh trust me women CAN hide things if they want to. So you are telling me if a woman was to act like she knows a lot or whatever. You wouldn't be doing "shaq" on her? As in how does she know so much? Or why isn't she so scared or tensed or whatever it is. Isn't that what all men have in their mind.
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No, I would be like at least she's not making pretend she doesn't know anything. If she acted like she didn't know, I would suspect her more.
^ Lol. Disgustingness at its peak in a way. Khair.
That is so so so true. Its this whole lame concept of how a woman is supposed to act like a naive cow & be submissive when it comes to stuff like this. I have even seen "aunties" telling young girls yeah let him do everything, don't do anything, it doesn't sound right. I mean hellow its your husbands we are talking about.
Come to think of it our culture sucks at times. (mind my language)
I am so glad I never came across any of these aunties, but I've seen it more on GS.
Why would a women need to act naive for her husband? So she pretends she doesn't know what's actually going on. But eventually the husband will find out she's smarter than how much she's leading on which will only lead to questioning her.
If women are capable and willing, no need to hide it.
Because if she doesn't downplay her eagerness the guy could very well think she's has prior experience.
Frankly, and this may sound a bit naive but I don't think there should be any of these stupid mind games between a couple. Isn't one of the best parts of being married being comfortable and open with your spouse, and not being afraid of them judging you for something like this. But of course our culture ruins that too.
No, I would be like at least she's not making pretend she doesn't know anything. If she acted like she didn't know, I would suspect her more.
So that would be it. No suspicions? I don't know why but I find it kind of hard to swallow.
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^ not all guys are shaqqi....and even if they ask or inquire, some won't make a big deal about it, or threaten to divorce their wives........
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Well i'm not like other Muslim men. I don't put too much emphasis on prior experience. Besides, I would rather be with someone who knows what she's doing than someone who lies there and plays dead. But that doesn't mean she has done something before. Some just have a better imagination.
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as fruitful this discussion has been, can we get back on topic? thanks.
I am so glad I never came across any of these aunties, but I've seen it more on GS.
We actually have people like that on GS? I thought GS has the most dhang kay desi people I have ever come across. Well most of them.
My bad for going off topic :D
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I'm not sure if it was recently or not, but in teh past there were threads and topics about how girls cannot imagine having sex on the first night...well of course those discussions always lead to other topics being discussed etc.
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No wonder they did. Now I feel like writing something about what you just mentioned.
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Women don't normally refuse sex with the hubby on a routine basis. We do not see it strictly for procreation. If a woman rarely wants it, we need to address whether we are skillfully conducting our matchmaking because clearly women are getting married to guys they are not attracted to. And that happens frequently with pakistanis unfortunately.
No wonder they did. Now I feel like writing something about what you just mentioned.
Go ahead, ill see if ican move some of these posts there....
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So you saying Yes means no and no means yes? Because if we follow bollywood desi girls always say no when they mean yes.
Sara :p
Women don't normally refuse sex with the hubby on a routine basis. We do not see it strictly for procreation. If a woman rarely wants it, we need to address whether we are skillfully conducting our matchmaking because clearly women are getting married to guys they are not attracted to. And that happens frequently with pakistanis unfortunately.
What about girls who refuse sex to their BF, Then BFs force them selves on the girls. You would think its a rape. At least that what girls want you to believe.
But then girls continue being friends with their BFs. Does that even qualify for a rape??