Re: Marital Problems
Yzhiza, I can partily understand where u are coming from. I have lived abroad almost all my life and married to a guy of my choice in pakistan.
The thing is that at first it was a bit difficult to a common ground as he came to Europe. Things were different for him, he missed his family/friends/uni ect..
He didnt understand the language (german) but I knew that he is a good guy, no double standards, the rules that were for me were also for him.
He didnt say u have to pray where as he didnt. He prayed and I automatically started praying with him, he showed me the way in a manner that it didnt feel like I am being obliged to do so, just coz he wants me to do so. He corrects himself first and then I follow ect..
Why am I saying this, is that ok at first it was difficult but with time he adopted, he is religious in heart and soul but he is also a pratical man with wordly needs.
And I am happy that he is religious, this means that I can trust him, when he is way on his business trips, I dont need to worry at home, I know his morals are strong, because of his commitments to his religion.
Lets take away the religion for a minute. is he doing his duties as a husband, is he giving u comfort that u need, the financial support, the moral comforat that a man should.
Is he proven to be understanding as u are, (u do sound like one)Is he seeing your pain and your suffering, your attempt to make things work, is he acknowleging what ur doing for him. If we do look at it from relgion point of view, he is doing many things wrong, why does he wants u cover ur head where as he knew that u didnt do it before ur marriage, if u do so, are u doing it for Allah or to please him.
The guy is quite arrogant, he knows how to get u, egl packing and saying he is leaving, let him leave for a while.