mard khana nahi pakateye

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tow phir sarey helvaee, nan kebab, lemonade, chai/coffee aur gyro folks mard kyoon hein?

these are men who support their families by cooking.

any reflection?

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I think there is a misconception among us that it is haraam for men to help their wives in chores. If you take the example of the Prophet (S.A.W), I cannot think of any hadith where the Prophet said you cannot help your wife in chores. Whenever Ammi is not home and there is nothing to eat, I sometimes make something for the rest of the household. Nothing wrong with that. When it comes to cooking to feed your family, I believe and will always believe that it is the responsibility of a man to feed his family and provide them with shelter and food. It is not the duty of the wife to work outside while her husband stays home. Ofcourse this situation is not the same as where man cannot find a job and is trying hard and in the meantime, the wife is working to support her husband and family.

Having said this, I think nothing wrong with cooking as long as you are doing it to help out in the house hold and not to stay home and cook while your wife can go outside and earn for you when it is your responsibility.

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My husband cooks so much better than I ever will.
I actually have to ask him for advice at times. :blush:

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my dad is such a good cook. He actually taught my mom :@:

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Too bad it doesn't run in the family :p

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My dad taught me how to cook rice
and my mom taught me how to make roti
i don’t cook though.

am so cool :phati:

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well said, hum hein la jawab.

& to further validate the division of labor, i'ld say that neither thinking about cooking as solely woman's task, and undermining the hard work that goes into cooking, is wrong.

also, women or men who cook for their families or spouses, out of care, wont count it all that they are preparing food for their family.

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CB: Yes you are :phati:

Dushi: I agree.

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There are some things men can do well and other things that they may be terrible at. For some men...cooking comes natural....for other men it may be disastrous.

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good to know, CBand Sajal.

in fact one of the main ways in which a family may come together is time for organized home cooking during family gatherings.

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which reminds me....when my sister and her husband first got married....she did all the cooking. In fact she continued to cook for many years thereafter...but she absolutely hated it. Now her husband took over the cooking and she does all the other household chores.

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meray dost ko bhooka naheen marna…kya samjheen

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Men must help in cooking etc.
also keep in mind, if wife is a house wife then she must be responsible for arranging meal on time etc. But if she is a working mom then husband is responsible for 50% of the work.

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khud tu bathroom clean kartay hain aur pata nai kia kia household chores kartay hain.
mairay ooper aa kar saaray rules bana liye :naraz:

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koi naheeN.... inhaiN biryaani banaani aati hai abb :)

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but they should do what they are good at…like i said some people are just not meant to cook :cb:

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I soooo qualify for that type of people. :smiley: :bummer:

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haan toh 50% of the time that u are cookign he will have plain rice and roti?
tsk tsk

baychara

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and some people may pretend to not know how to cook just to get away with not having to do it :mocking:

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itna afsos aur taras aa raha hai tu friends kis din kaam aayein gey.
aap k paas bhaij diya karoon gi :hmmm: