This program was on ARY just now, in relation to 8th March, International Women’s Day.
An amazing and extremely interesting program it was :k: Excellent and eye opening!
The program was ‘Shaista and U’ and the host was Dr. Shaista Wahidi, young female.
The guests were all men. (I hope I remember their names correctly)
Akhter Ali - A watchman who was from a village in interior Sindh and his monthly salary was 6000 rupees, he came home every night at 2:30 am after his daily duties *
Danish [lastname] - A rich Pathan businessman, seemed to be from a traditional background. [seemed somewhat bossy and stubborn but not a bad person]
Somebody Awan - A famous national human rights activist. [seemed too politically correct but raised some good points]
Iqbal Haider of PPP - a high ranking politician. [true sayasatdaan nevertheless humble in way of conversation and raised good points]
The small audience consisted of men and women from all walks of life.
Basically the program meant to ask these men to voice their complaints about the women in their lives (wives, mothers, daughters, sisters etc) and comment on the status of women in our society.
Some very very interesting points were raised in the program.
Akhter Ali’s complaint was that his wife is asleep when he reaches home at night and he asks her many times to get up and give him dinner but she wakes up after many calls. Her mother and his wife are not happy with each other, although his mother chose his wife. His wife demands expensive clothes. He also made the statement that har mard apni maan kee marzi se shaadi karna chahta hae. He admitted to beating his wife, kabhee kabhee haath chal jaata hae. He also said that buzarg kabhee kabhaar ulti baat kar jata hay but ye beewee ka farz hay saas kee baat ko nazarandaaz karna. He also said his mother was most important in his life.
Danish complained that he never wanted his wife to work but she has been working for 12 years since they got married despite his wish not to. She was not attentive to the kids and house. His expectation from her is 'acha kapra pehne achay zevar pehne aur mehmaanon kee khatirdari karay. He also said his wife doesn’t need to work since they are already rich. Plus his wife ‘bachon ko kabhee goad mein naheen bithaya, kabhee homework naheen karaya..Mein raat ko aata hoon to un kee kaapyaan dekhta hoon’. He said he beats his wife jab baat hadd se guzar jaati hae. For example, if he comes home tired, asks for water, she goes to kitchen and starts thinking something else and then he asks her again and she is still lost, such situations make him very angry.
The human rights activist said that women in the country are very mazloom and its the fault not of the men but of our society because since they are kids, men are told ‘dont cry, be a man’ and all the gaalyaan are based on women etc etc. Paanch saal ka bacha apni bees saal kee behn ko bus stop tak chorne jata hay…kya woh us ka tahaffuz kar sakta hae? The men who bother women in public are zehni mareez. Men beat their wives because since childhood they are told that this is the way to ‘control’ their wives and they don’t want a relationship of partners but a relationship of ‘haakim and ghulaam’.. [This guest got the most claps from the female audience]
Iqbal Haider said that unless women and men, work together, har satah pe, har shobay mein, shana ba shana, the country will not progress. Hukoomat has to facilitate this progress of women.
The audience asked some questions and raised some good points. The best point raised was by a young guy in the audience that the basic issue is trust..AITEMAAD and if mard and aurat have aitemaad on each other then problems will be minimised.
Don’t know if they’ll show re-runs but a program worth watching, specially for the ladies :k:*
