what kind of relationship is allowed during engagement? What if one starts doing or making the other one do harram stuff. How should the girl act in such a situation…
my friends sister is having this problem, plz answer according to the Islamic point of view. She is engaged to her cousin…
if the nikaah has been done even if the rukhsati hasnt then anything goes if not then its haraam for them to be together in private let alone do anything else.
ps. i could be wrong cuz i aint no scholar, so point out my mistakes ppl.
Engagement is just like a promise. It can be broken. Under the divine court there is no room for an engagement, it is not recognized as a marriage. Its more of an extra-marital affair.
During the period when a Muslim male proposes to a suitable female with the consent of her guardian (usually her father), and she agrees to consider him for marriage the couple are under ‘engagement’ Islamically and the female may not consider another man until and unless she decides to decline the proposal.
This engagement does not allow any grounds for socialising or private meetings. The man can go out with her only as long as they are going out for a matter related to the preparations for marriage and with the accompaniment of her Mahram (i.e male whom she cannot marry such as her father or brother or uncle). If they do need to meet, they must do so in the presence of her mahram and strictly to discuss Islam or the preparations for marriage and not for any purpose of entertainment. In addition they are not allowed to be alone together in a room, as this is Khalwah and is Haram (prohibited). Moreover any physical contact between the couple is prohibited. But they are allowed to speak to each other on the phone with the father’s permission and the conversation must be restricted to discussing Islam or the preparations for marriage. To discuss, for example, sex is Haram except in the context of Hukm Shar'ie (Divine Laws).