Amzingly true, I think. Simply put, guys cannot read between the lines. IF you want them to know something, tell them that, dont let them guess.
Good post Niksik
Honey, I want:
A Bentley
Some grocery on your way back from work
Some moolah for a facial
A Bentley
To see a movie tonight
Some new clothes
A Bentley
A hug
Men dont want to deal with manipulations unnecessarily.
Its a bit naive to say men are simple creatures and dont understand things between the lines and are not into manipulating, allowing others to manipulate them. Its a daily occurance in work, workign with clients, partners, peers, seniors, juniors..contractors, you name it.
One has to pick up the prince by Machiavelli or the art of war by sun tzu to get an idea of how men can manipulate.
I think in relationships of trust ..family, friends, etc .manipulation, cryptic signals etc add a layer of stress that men dont want to bother with
Niksik, good call... some of the points are correct in the excerpt.
yet, fairness and equality of attribution is the key to real happiness.
this is why, for women and men to be able to own up to thir personal flaw is very essential. & that is just what will make a good honest relationship - genuine honesty and care. hope is not lost when in a marriage or pre marriage somebody is manipulative. hope is born when the wrong actions are taken by the manipulator, for it is his or her test to set that all right what he or she did wrong to the partner.
& all relations can be strained with manipulative pulses. it can all sort itself out when people begin to take responsibility of own words, thoughts and deeds that bring about manipulation and either they act in a deceiving manner or begin to act out of character due to situational and uncontrolled other manipulatory factors. yet, a grown woman or man, must not let other manipulations enable her or him to manipulate their partner.
that is ignorant.
but, if the manipulation is on purpose, then there is no solution but to end the manipulation and then there is no trust that remains. being able to assure care and regard, trusting that too, and clearly identifying what is a problem, can help a relationship to become non manipulative.
playing aloof is ignorant. being unkind is a sign that the deceiver and manipulator is needy and ruthless. so, he or she will be taken care of by the God who overlooks us all.
conniving manipulation teaches the manipulator more than he or she set out learn... that accomplishment will eventually take the shape of a loss and a life long disadvantage of guilt unless the self is redeemed from the error and mistake of violating trust.
best,
Dushwari
