manana :(

:salam:
My problem is ke mujhey kisi ko manana nahi aata:bummer:
All I will do when I’m wrong is say sorry.If the other person does not accept or does a lil nakhrey or says something else or starts asking me qs mai ulta naraz ho jati hoon:(

Koe solution bataye isska:bummer:

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Oyeee larkiiiii :cb:

Usko bolo sorryyyyy…agar tumhari galthi hai tho…ofcoz woh tho thora nakhrey karenge naaa…coz they want u to manaaao them…they want to feel pampered and they want to see how much you mean to them…ulta naraaz kyun ho rahi ho tum???

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Kaan pakarke ek rak ke do aur kaho "sorry bola na!"

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aaliyah bhai mujhey nai ataa manana:bummer:
sorry ka mutlub maine ghalti qubool ki…aindah koshish karongi ke aisa na ho…toh phir nakhrey kyon:(

reha :bummer: thts wht I feel like doing:teary2:

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Be patient, put yourself in their shoes and see how youd feel, and then let them know you realize your mistake...
Some ppl are just not happy with a sorry...they have to know that you care enough to spend a couple mins pampering them as aaliyahkhan1 said above :)

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Arrreeee baba…nakhrey tho sab karthe hai…tum bhi karthe ho…(ab na math kehna) tho woh tumko manaathe hai na…sirf sorry nahi bolthe right!!!

Jab koi tumse ithna pyaar karthe hai…tho woh thora nakhrey bhi karenge…coz they want you to show how much they mean to you…

Main bhi aise hi hoon…jab koi meri dil dukhate hai..tho sorry se kaam nahi chlatha hai :cb: aur mujhe aur bhi sad feel hothi hai jab woh sirf sorry kahen aur kuch bhi na kahen…

Add a couple more sentences to the "sorry." Say I'm truly sorry for ......(whatever it is that you did). I guess I said those hurtful things because.....(whatever reason you said them). I understand that I was way out of line and that you have every right to be upset at me. I understand that you don't feel like talking to me and I respect your space. I'll try to be more careful next time and I hope you can forgive me.

^Then give that person time and space to cool down. Pestering them and trying to get them to talk may annoy them even more. Most people (those that you have a good and strong relationship with) come around after a while.

^I know that it really irks some people if the ONLY thing you say is "sorry" and nothing after that. It **CAN **kinda give the impression that you don't care as much. Sort of like you bumping into someone you know (not a stranger).....uttering a quick/automatic/robotic "sorry" and then taking off. So, try expanding on the apology, it can help.

And if you're close to the person, maybe a kind gesture along with the verbal apology can help as well. For example, you can say sorry AND help the person out with something. Maybe get them a treat....do something nice for them. ********You don't need to do kind gestures **ALL the time to show you're sorry. The other person can use this to their advantage and that's not right. Just a verbal apology can suffice a lot of the times.
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*****Some people will resort to cold shoulders/guilt trips/emotional blackmail to compel you to give into their wishes and "nakhray." They may hope that you'll end up feeling "sorry" and do what they want you to do. So, don't apologize all the time out of pressure. Think about the offense from the other person's point of view AND also from your point of view. It's possible that the **OTHER person could be MORE guilty or in the wrong than you....but is trying to make you feel bad about it. Automatic apologizing without reflection is not healthy.

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I am an engineer so gotta stream line the process. So yea three steps to the process
1. Ackowledging that u did something that made them upset.
2. Steps that you are going to take to make sure it doesn't happen again
3. Acknowledging any other concerns they put forward.
there ya go

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^ I disagree . The only one step solution is tickle , and it always work :stuck_out_tongue: ( Ok not always , sometimes it backfire too ) :cb:

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Tickling could also give you a black eye Nomi ^

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Reha let me predict , you are ticklish . . . :cb:

hehe :cb:

a sincere apology is the best thing. Just dont say bc you have to say it.

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For married life:

rothna manana, aur mana ker rothna, khoon garam rakhney ka hai eik bahana

Inspired By: Allama Iqbal :)

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As a guy you just do it so you don't have to deal with the moody BS for a longer period. I will say I am sorry just to end the drama.

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:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

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I bet CM's gonna mention Darfur in his next post.

aisa karo khud sub sy naraz ho jao phir dekho tum ko kis kis tarah sy sub razi karain gah wo tip tum use karna jub koi tum sy naraz ho jay

ya aaj hamesha kah lia muj sy bichar ja
ya rooz her bat peh ranjish nah kia kar

oh God, ye manana mere se naii hota

the best thing to do is just start crying and make the OTHER person feel guilty, that way the blame shifts and you're not the culprit anymore