I’ve come to the conclusion that I can’t manage different aspects of my life at the same time. The stuff being education (good grades), keeping track of the latest fashion, and looking (read: trying to look) pretty, socialization, entertainment…etc. If i keep on the education track, I end up being a nerd. If I try to keep up with the whole looking normal thing, education gets pushed back. If I try to keep up with the whole let’s-be-friends deal, again, education ends up being hurt.
I don’t want to hear that there isn’t any need to be pretty, because, unfortunately, I’m at that age when mumsie dearie is telling me to do beautician stuff to myself and the whole peelay haath deal. Don’t tell me back off from my friends, because I’m the kind of person that needs friends in order to thrive. And education is very, very important if I ever want to feed myself. It’s just unsaid.
How do other people do that? How do they have friends, smell gorgeous and have A+ plastered all over their face? Is there some sort of special brain chip I missed out on?
i had 40hrs of work in brampton, 7 subjects in seneca of northyork (i live in brampton), and no car
part of schooling experience is to have friends, and studies are done cuz money is coming outta ur pocket to remain in school.. part of looking pretty, well dunno about that.. just spend time on ur appearence, here’n there get nails done, massages and facials..
u gotta have a reason to do all this u should be able to look at your life, pick family, put it in a corner, studies, put into another corner, friends/love life, put it in a corner, personal, in another corner, and whenever u look, u should be able to manage each corner, sometimes mixing two corners at a time..
i have no discipline i need a tight schedule to run. otherwise…procrastination rocks!
the physical stuff i can deal with…it’s the whole mental, brain stuff that’s crazy. like my brain can’t give all the stuff equal sized rooms at the same time.
My great fren once advised me ...If I wana live through medicine (specially first 2 yrs) bcome selfish as in do wat suits u and ur studies best (but dont go out hurt anyone) even if its a family :)
make a schedule for yourself.
put aside specific times for specific things. you dont have to give up one in order to do another but dont kill yourself in trying to take on too much all at the same time
^ have a white board and right down timing for things need to be done for that particualr day and FOLLOW IT regardless of anything! It will be hard for a week to follow but soon you get the flow of it! It works perfectly :k:
i'm the same...i can't manage anything...if i put my education forward then i just go to uni, can't be bothered how i look and its so difficult to meet friends, but thankfully my friends are also in a similar position and understand. Now, that i have the hols, i try and put some attempt in2 being presentable. But then some days i don't care, y should i pretty myself up, i don't want a man or at least not yet. Get education done with first, then i'll move onto the next thing on the list!
That’s what my doc sis always tells me.. Be selfish. but I find it sooo hard. I mean how can you walk into a kitchen, see your mom all tired up doing the dishes and worrying about safayee and not feel like helping out I usually end up doing all the housework and am too tired to go back to studies. After which, I get a helping of daant from my sis
I just hope to move out once I get to medical school, else I’ll be THE flunk of the class
First thing i’ll tell you is that “looking pretty” is not a bad thing, just coz u loook nice, it doesn’t mean you’re out to get a man, so begin to realize that.. make urself pretty to make yourself happy Everyone should take pride in their appearance and it doesn’t make you an airhead, or superficial. That being said, you can find plenty of time-saving beauty products, such as tinted moisturizer, you can use vaseline for your eyelashes and lips as well as typical spots (feet, hands, knees, elbows etc). With very little effort, you can set aside a couple of hours a month for waxing/threading since the results are longer lasting than shaving or using depilatory cremes. If you wear hijab, then I dont c hair as being an everyday issue, just wash, tie it in a bun and ure good to go. If not, then I would see that as taking up most of your morning prep-time. Smelling nice, obviously, shower, a few spritzes of body spray (since its not as heavy as perfume/eau de toilette) shud do the trick Clothingwise, i would suggest that you get some really good , versatile items in your wardrobe, that you can dress up and down..
As corny as it sounds, if you go away [like disappear or something] and when you come back, your friends are there and welcome you with open arms.. they’re ur true friends What is your daily schedule like? school, worK? When ur ein college, its easier to meet new people and to hang out with your friends, when you start working fulltime/real-world, it gets quite difficult … i can also say enjoy these days the most (having fun wit friends) but you dont want to make the same mistake I did, do NOT screw up your education..I know education is also the #1 priority in your life.. and i honestly think its more difficult to spend time with friends if we’re not allowed to go out all night, or sleepovers.. you can always hang out with them on teh weekends, nO?
As for school.. don’t ya wish you were the type who didnt’ need to study to get straight As But again.. put in the effort.. it all takes time management skillz man.. Best of luck..
Khumar: I have the same freaking problem :P.. Somewhat.. But you know what? If you stick to a good time management scheme, then all this is just baby stuff to sort out. :).. I was never a very social person, had my friends and wasn't ALWAYS into hanging out with them. But quite recently, I have cut down on my socializing and prioritized my work according to how I can manage the time. It really helps. You need to see where you need to draw a line when looking at each aspect of life individually, be it education, socializing, beauty etc. Giving yourself some quality time is important, you need to allow yourself some pampering...:P.. Becuz at the end of the day, it's all about how you feel about yourself and your work. :D
i need a tight schedule to run. otherwise…procrastination rocks!
I usually end up doing all the housework and am too tired to go back to studies. After which, I get a helping of daant from my sis 
Everyone should take pride in their appearance and it doesn’t make you an airhead, or superficial. That being said, you can find plenty of time-saving beauty products, such as tinted moisturizer, you can use vaseline for your eyelashes and lips as well as typical spots (feet, hands, knees, elbows etc). With very little effort, you can set aside a couple of hours a month for waxing/threading since the results are longer lasting than shaving or using depilatory cremes. If you wear hijab, then I dont c hair as being an everyday issue, just wash, tie it in a bun and ure good to go. If not, then I would see that as taking up most of your morning prep-time. Smelling nice, obviously, shower, a few spritzes of body spray (since its not as heavy as perfume/eau de toilette) shud do the trick 
Clothingwise, i would suggest that you get some really good , versatile items in your wardrobe, that you can dress up and down..
But again.. put in the effort.. it all takes time management skillz man.. Best of luck..