Man will obey his wife and disobey his mother

cricketplaya · May 11, 2010, 3:49pm

Last person to answer this post wins!!!!

Exactly, I agree. Many situations are not black and white and I’m hoping that Cricketplaya has considered this point. A person with a just and stable mind should be able to discern who is right and who is wrong. Sometimes the erring party is the wife and sometimes it’s the mother. Parents are not infallible.

I think even Islam allows us to disobey parents if they’re actions or requests are unIslamic. Religion has mentioned the rights of various relationships. And if a mother’s demands are interfering or infringing upon the basic Islamic rights of a wife…then her behavior is not in accordance with Islamic guidelines. She can’t be “obeyed” just because she’s “MOM” at the expense of someone else. Similarly, the wife can be wrong as well.

The overall situation needs to be considered. One can’t assume that a person is a “jahanami” or a “sinner” because he supported the wife over the mom…or a friend over their parents. Nor is it reasonable to rush to the “Haaaaw haaai…yeh banda hai qiyamat ki nishani” judgment about someone. It’s possible that there is now a greater prevalance for a certain behavior than in past decades…but even then…situations vary.

Also…even decades ago (grandparents) must have complained about our parents…that “Kids are stubborn. Times have changed…they do their own man-maani…Maa Baap ki koi ahmiat hi nahin” These types of scoldings existed back then as well.

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Of course, both wife and mother have their rights. Kids don’t have to obey their parents if their orders are against Islam. That’s all true, well and good. [nobody is saying some1 is a jahanami, tauba tauba]

But what I’m asking is a general question is in context of the hadith. Is there more of this happening today than let’s say 10-20 years ago?

bro you have to admit, men’s heart melt easily in front of a loving woman, that’s our weakness, in our nature..
you can quote me on this, dear sisters…