Man marries four women to prove ex-wife wrong

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Pretty extreme to win a bet but I think he lost in the long run. He has more people to take care of financially, and unless he got really really understanding wives there is going to be tension between them. Anyone watch Double Duty on Hum TV? Think of that but quadruple duty for him lol.

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Oh he's a Saudi, he'll manage.

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Right. So I did read it all. And we will remove the conjecture from the post. Which means most of the post is gone :stuck_out_tongue: Lets deal with this logically my dear Emma Watson.

Root cause is not the ego. Why? Its rather elementary my dear cupcake. What caused him to make this outrageous decision? The comment by the woman - his ex-wife. Meaning that is the root cause. The root cause by text book definition means that reason by which an action is taken. Sure his bruised ego played a part. But the ego would not have been bruised if the comment was not made. So thus Dr. Cupcake the root cause is the comment made by the ex-wife. But lets dig deeper.

Divorce happens. It is a natural part of life sadly. When people get divorced they make outlandish claims and statements due to personal and emotional injury. This comment by the ex-wife was just hat. Now cupcake, why would she make such a claim? Because she was upset. Of course. She is getting a divorce. Of course she would be upset. And why would she be upset, because her ego was bruised as you put it so aptly.

Thus proving my point that the root cause was the ex-wife’s statement.

Now to the deductive reasoning that brought me to conclusion that she said this comment to add some self-esteem and value to her self-worth. I would like to take the time to point out what I state will always be deductive reasoning as I provide a logical path by which I arrive to my conclusions. Your comments are by all means only conjecture. :smiley:

When a woman gets divorced she loses some value of her self-esteem. As does any guy. However in our culture as you stated she would have a worse off time. She in all likelihood be a spinster all her life. In that regard her comment merely showed her frustration at being divorced. She made the comment out of being divorced and thus her losing value for herself.

Oh yeah :snooty:

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It was HIS fault that the woman left him.
It is HIS fault that 4 others married him.

Banda jai tau kahan jai!

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Thank you ... :)

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saudi men are the most jaahil people. this is sooo not surprising..

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CHEETA !!!!!!!!!!!

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Welcome. :)

But 'thank you' for what?

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By your definition here of the root cause, CM, all the blame of of an individual's actions can be placed on another person.....thus making the individual exempt from any responsibility at all.

This is another way to look at it: You can't control people and what they will say to you. How you respond to their comments depends upon how strong you are internally. Someone can say something hurtful to you.......but if you do something drastic as a result.......it would make me wonder.......how fragile your sense of self-esteem must be......for you to respond so drastically to another person's words. You have the choice in the manner of response. We've seen individuals who get upset and then move on without feeling the need to let the words consume them.

*****Here's an example. Let's say one willingly marries an abusive person. You can put some blame on the abusive person for hurting you.........but had you been more secure with your self on the inside......had your self-esteem been truly stable.....you'd never allow yourself to enter or stay in such a relationship in the first place. The **root cause **here is the inner-self/self-esteem........which was probably in a poor condition......before** the abusive/toxic person came along. No, I'm not saying that abuse was involved in the polygamist's former marriage. I'm saying that sense of self (self-esteem, etc) can be a root cause....as it shapes your perception of things....even nasty words hurled by an ex. And sometimes a perception is healthy...and other times it isn't.

The article said that he divorced because their marriage was a total failure. The reason for this failure was not mentioned. Perhaps it was mostly the ex-wife's fault...or perhaps it was mostly his fault...or maybe they both have traits that make them difficult people to live with. But he has one failed marriage.......he struggled to maintain his marriage with just one woman......and now he thinks he can take on 4. Could be that the ex made the comment due to a bruised ego.......but it could also be that she thinks this guy has some traits that she feels make him a difficult husband or difficult person to live with in general. And again, this is conjecture, and he might turn out to be a wonderful spouse. You might even argue that this guy must be very confident about his abilities as a spouse or he wouldn't have taken on four wives. Well, not necessarily. People can have unrealistic even lofty perceptions of their character and abilities.

***This guy seems to have the financial means to get the wives to marry him.....but that's hella expensive....and I imagine the maintenance would be stressful. Add to the financial responsibilities....the stress of managing time with all wives in a fair manner....as well as dealing with emotional challenges that relationships bring. And according to the article......he took on these 4 women and all the challenges that they'll bring....."JUST"* to prove his ex-wife wrong. This is not indicative of healthy sense of inner-self. True….the women who decided to marry him made the decision consciously and have to deal with the consequences. After all, they could have refused the offer. But to take the risk of putting yourself through such emotional and financial stress….for the rest of your life…..just to prove one woman wrong…….with the possibility of hurting other women…….yeah, that’s not exactly sane.