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*SU *- your cousin needs a spanking.
*SU *- your cousin needs a spanking.
Dude, tell me about it, he's just got engaged to my other 15-year-old cousin because his mama said so!
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Hmmmm. With all due respect, it could be that 'mama' who needs the spanking.
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hmmmmmmmm, i think both the mother and son need a reality check. I dont understand why mamas boys even wanna get married...
Man what a wuss. Some woman who raised him to be what he is!
jaanwar...my thoughts exactly. A boy didnt grow up to be a mama's boy on his own. For the most part the mother molded him into becoming one. Once he becomes a man....it's hard to break the habits that he has grown accustom to.
Lol! 
I was watching a show where this supposedly VERY knowledgeable lady (Islamic) was telling a girl that complained her husband abuses her, treats her badly..she said if his mother (the guy's) asks him to divorce u he HAS to listen to his mother otherwise it's considered "na-fermani" and he'll be punished..
who was that Islamic lady?
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/\ could be a female version of Moulvi Diesel (Fazlu-ur-Rahman)
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What exactly does a mother do to raise a mama's boy? I have seen real life example where the mother raised her son to be polite no matter what, never gave enough responsibility on his shoulders, he never talks back to an elder even when they are out of their mind. But in his case, he was so used to being the sharif/quiet one who doesn't answer back, that once he got married.....his wife just walks all over him and he has nothing to stand up for himself....
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What exactly does a mother do to raise a mama's boy? I have seen real life example where the mother raised her son to be polite no matter what, never gave enough responsibility on his shoulders, he never talks back to an elder even when they are out of their mind. But in his case, he was so used to being the sharif/quiet one who doesn't answer back, that once he got married.....his wife just walks all over him and he has nothing to stand up for himself....
A child should be raised with respect for everyone, women, elders etc, but to also be able to speak up and stand up for his rights.
I know what u mean tho it is difficult.
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Some really distrubing views expressed on this thread. Seems like everyone is against any say of the mother. I believe that a guy needs to keep a balance between his responsibility to his mom and his wife. Both have rights and they need to be respected.
But I don't agree to the crooked logic that just cuz a guy is "independant" he should scrap his mother and be *independant *and marry the girl he wants and *live *as if his mom didn't exist. After giving birth to you, a lifetime of caring, feeding, nurturing you, is that what a guy should do to his mom ? For the girls who are enthusiastically trying to sideline mothers, how would you feel when your son does the same to you ?
I think moms SHOULD be consulted before marrying a girl. She has sacrifised all her life for you and you don't even consider her worthy of being informed or taken into confidence about important matters like marriage ? I'm sorry but I believe that to be downright shameless. Besides if *love marriages *were the best thing in the world, then why do statistics show that mostly they result in a failure (I'm talking about pk)
Everyone have their rights and mothers should not interfere with the marital life of their son, but I consider simply neglecting her and not caring about her just because you want to show that you are independant seems a really twisted logic.
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Of course parents should be involved in their children's lives. But they should also allow their children to live their own lives.
And of course children should respect their parents and make an effort to keep them involved in their lives, but they should also have parts of their life that they share only with their spouse.
Like most things, this is a two way street.
First of all - there are usually TWO major influences in a a child's life. A mother and a father. A father also has the reponsibility of shaping their child's nature, so the entire blame for Mommy's boys can't be laid at the feet of the mother. However, obviously she has a large role to play in it's development.
But ultimately, once the childhood phase is over, the responsibility for STILL acting like a Mama's boy is the son's. And he needs to overcome whatever mental constructs causing him to act like he is still five on his own.
who was that Islamic lady?
Someone called Dur-e-Shawar..she used to come on The Nadia Khan Show.