Re: Making up with MIL
Whether they or I like it, I am a part of their family and they mine- we have my husband (their son/brother) in common. If I can’t be an active part of the family (because my MIL has sabotaged many opportunities/relationships), then I’d like to be at least a non-hostile and/or passive member- I don’t know why but I want them to accept me! That sounds really sad, I know but still, it’s a human need to want to belong and I feel I’m being denied that opportunity because of one woman’s perceptions of events.
I don’t want to know every iota of news. With that comes responsibility and my job keeps me too busy to have to or want to get involved in everything. I’d appreciate knowing the basics though (births, deaths, marriages) so I’m not made to feel like an idiot/arrogant/rude person around others.
Vaikyehi, bhar main jaein lekin we’re surrounded by married friends, who no matter how hard their relationships with their respective families are, are there for each other in times of need. I feel my MIL is waiting for me to bhar main jah so she can ‘have’ her son back! It’s depressing at times. And when I sometimes think about the future and children, I feel sad that ours are probably not going to have any relationship or lagao with their dadyal. Am I being silly?