I know of a few ladies who are super adventurous, having tried everything from scuba diving to learning how to play the african drums to having travelled around the globe etc… but they are either single or are married for a long time but have no children… and they are not necessarily young. One lady, for example, is in her late 30’s, she’s married and she herself keeps putting off having a child to concentrate on.. well.. making the most out of her own life first.
Is marriage/children a barrier for those who are adventurous or career-oriented?
I know of a few ladies who are super adventurous, having tried everything from scuba diving to learning how to play the african drums to having travelled around the globe etc... but they are either single or are married for a long time but have no children... and they are not necessarily young. One lady, for example, is in her late 30's, she's married and she herself keeps putting off having a child to concentrate on.. well.. making the most out of her own life first.
Is marriage/children a barrier for those who are adventurous or career-oriented?
no, its not.
it may seems that way sometimes because over time people change, their interests change, priorities change.
There are single people in all age groups that are super adventurous or superboring. Same for the married crowd.
marriage itself is not the underlying cause for change in behavior ... at least not in my world.
children are obviously as you go from putting your needs first to their needs and your life is about caring from them mostly (if you're a good parent anyway).
I agree stoppit and I would do the same if I was married... I'd refrain from having children for some time because if I did, I wouldn't be able to leave them alone all day long at a creche or with a nanny, I'd prefer to stay at home myself... which means giving up A LOT!
get over the spices Jimmy and, coming back to the topic, tell me why aren’t YOU married yet? Don’t you think marriage would restrict you in a lot of ways?
I don't think its the fact that marriage is a barrier to making the most out of life rather it is the fact that it changes one's priorities.........so that you make new plans and revised decisions.
i've become more adventurous and more outgoing ever since i got married. i guess it depends on whether you marry a young adventurous guy who thinks like you do or whether you end with some uncle-like guy who puts restrictions on you as if he's your dad not husband.
as for kids, yeah i guess you can't go scuba diving with a lil crib on the side but besides that i'm pretty sure people live their lives whatever way they want. if you're a boring person you'll find a million excuses to live a crappy life such as "oh i got married" or "oh i had kids too early" or job, career, money, even religion. if someone's exciting they'll never let these things get in their way n live an adventurous life no matter how many marriages or kids :)
I wouldn’t say marriage was a hinderance to making the most out of life, your husband shouldn’t depend on you so what’s stopping you from doing the things you did when you were single? He may even share the same goals, hobbies, likes, dislikes as you, then it could be even more enjoyable to share those experiences with a life partner.
Not everyone turns into a boring aunty once they get married
But, having children is a different ball game entirely because your children will depend on you entirely and your priority is their upbringing. Your children should take precedence even over yourself and those goals in life you had before will take a back seat because bringing up your children will be the most important thing in your eyes. Well, that’s how I see it anyway…
In Pakistan, the adventures for women are limited to driving cars, going to park for a walk or going shopping to a far away market. But marriage shouldn't be a problem if u live abroad.
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