Making Peace with family

Lifestyle Relationships
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I am a Candian girl who has fallen in love with a pak man born and raised in the United States. We are planning to become engaged and get married within a year. He has always been honest and open with me that he wants to respect his culture but has major issues with Islam and has left the faith. He has not practiced since he left for University ten years ago.

We agreed within the first few weeks of dating that we would raise our children (if God blesses us with children) in my faith (Christianity).

I believe Islam is a beautiful religion, it is just not mine. And, it is certainly not my future hubbies!

While I have grown close to his family, and they are very accepting, they are still very much hoping he will reconsider and that I will convert. How do I make it clear this is not going to happen while still being respectful? What can I do to stop the constant nagging so I can build a relationship with them?

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Re: Making Peace with family

Ask them if they would leave their own faith, and if not, why should they expect you to, and if you did, how faithful could they expect you to be in anything, AND remind them that it is lawful in Islam for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim but ahl-e-kitaab woman, and furthermore, it is only by their own sweet tolerant and nonpushy example would you ever be persuaded to consider Islam and that pushing religion on someone is the best way to close their heart against it and to please bugger off.

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Re: Making Peace with family

Well, maybe omit the last bit...

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Re: Making Peace with family

Thank you, for your reply! I want to make this work and I am open to learning about islam but my heart is somewhere else....

I will leave the bugger off comment out :)

I hope we can make this work!