Is there a feeling of more fulfillment? More pride? Do they come out as husband and wife with a stronger bond than others?
When my husband and I talk about starting our new life soon, we plan to do it from scratch and without anyone's help. None of mommy and daddy's money, no real savings to start off with, and both of us working towards establishing our lives, inshallah. We anticipate it to be real difficult but know at the end of the day, we will be grateful with everything Allah swt has blessed us with and content that we made it on our own.
Those of you who have been through something similar, how was it? What difficulties did you face? How did it effect your marriage? What was the outcome?
I still had lots of help from my parents but its been a major struggle. Even though things may have gotten better, there's still a long road ahead to be "established."
People will tell you the struggle makes the success so much sweeter, but I think hardly anyone will ever tell you that there will be times when you feel like giving up and think--is this struggle worth it? can we make it? and sadly, while there are those who grow closer, some do end up breaking apart.
But its definitely true that the ones who do make it through have a strong bond and tend to take more pride in their life. But that's not to say couples who don't struggle as much are lacking in fulfillment or don't have that strong bond.