Was talking to a married lady friend of mine the other day…and we got to talk about how husbands tend to take their wives for granted when they get everything they want whenever they want.
Then our topic took a swerve and she said…"there are days when we both want “it”…not like every week or every three days..but everyday…maybe even more than once a day…but I push him away…it may mean denying myself of the pleasure as well…but if I give it to him everyday…and whenever he wants it..he won’t have any value for it later on..it’ll become boring and monotonous. He won’t find it exciting or stimulating any more.
“So I make him wait..not too long..but atleast a day or two..so that when he gets it…he values it.”
Is that true? I know that even if chocolate is my favourtie thing in the world, that if you force feed it to me everyday I’d start hating it..but feed it to me when I want it and I’ll love you for a life time. When 2 people want something shouldn’t they go ahead and do it…or is my friend right? Does giving in to easy and all the time lessen the value and excitement of what you’re giving? I’d understand if one side wasn’t in the mood..but it’s clearly not the case here.
Does sex follow the law of diminshing marginal utility?
there are other things that can be done to avoid sex to become monotnous..no need to cut the poor husband off..
the couple can try new things u know..like she can tie him..he can tie her up..she can dress up as an altar boy, he can dress up as a priest...she can become Monica and play President President...so much can be done..
It doesn't have to be a tool of manipulation, but a wife can be a tease and that does keep things exciting. The last thing a husband wants is a wife who just lies there and 'fulfills her duty'. He wants an active player. There's nothing wrong with keeping him on his toes.
