Making an effort in a relationship

[partyslims]

Re: Making an effort in a relationship

Relationships do require work, but there has to be something there to be motivated to do the work for.

[NomiCA]

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And considering Life 1 and all its Bollywood addicts you are going to get the answer you are looking for to reinforce pre-existin

exactly..... you can't foresee that things will all be goody goody and fun........its entirely possible that when u step into it.....things change and then these pre-concieved expectations cause greater problems........

[Tklucky8]

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@partyslims

Relationships do require work, but there has to be something there to be motivated to do the work for.

I agree with this, every relationship needs work, how do we know if a certain relationship deserve the effort? Well, the only way you can and will compromise and deal with the other persons mishaps is by having something that’s motivating you to be with that person. It could be love, commitment or something else that makes you want to be with that person.

In the end, listen to your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right then it probably isn’t.

[canadiandesigirl]

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@partyslims

Relationships do require work, but there has to be something there to be motivated to do the work for.

I like!

[TLK]

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To TLK's point, I would feel as if I was the one to lack sincerity in that relationship and that I wasn't being true to myself and was doing him a disservice.

Loyalty and sincerity are two different things. We cant be 100% loyal towards a new relationship, but we can be sincere from the day one.

Sincerity means that relationship means exactly to you what the other person perceives it means to you. If the other person is perceiving that you portray him to be your best buddy but you actually dont think that way (you just pretend in front of him/her) then you are not sincere.

[princessjojo]

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Here's the mix I need to make such a commitment and 'fight' for a relationship if there is a need: similar values, respect, a 100% loyal nature and the will and ability to back words with actions. That's my click factor. Uhh, sounds like too much.

[bbeats]

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Yes, I know any relationship takes a lot of work or effort for it to be a happy, healthy, satisfying relationship. No one person is perfect and no two people as a couple are a perfect match for each other.

But if you step back to before the commitment, what would make you want to make an effort in a potential relationship, whose chances or success are essentially a crapshoot? What are indicators that the potential relationship is worth the effort and what are indicators that it's a waste of time and better to save your time and effort and move on?

Follow the Beats

[abubakrrizvi]

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Sehrysh

i hope if you dont mind if i say this, but by 'effort' are you alluding to 'taking the relationship to the next level', if you know what i mean ?
maybe thats off limits for you, but this is a valid issue. a lot of relationships get to that level at some point it might be inevitable or one feels pressured into it. and women usually want to make sure that this 'investment' or effort doesnt go waste. no?

[Nisha25]

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If you have to look for indicators then it is not a relationship worth the effort. A meaningful relationship does not even require an effort. It shines and grows on its own.

what's a meaningful relationship like though? how does the man treat the woman and vice versa?

[Mirch]

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what's a meaningful relationship like though? how does the man treat the woman and vice versa?

You will know answers to these questions when the time is right.

[STA]

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There are some relationships you're born into...such as your family. By default, you have to make an effort to maintain healthy relationships.

Then there are friendships that you choose. These are usually based on commonality of interests, other circumstances.

Then there are the marital relationships. How do you know if you should make a commitment? With a potential rishta, there are some common sense factors...such as family background, education, interests...and there are some "emotional" factors which are different for different people. The commitment comes when the head and the heart are in agreement. How does that happen? There is no out of the book logical explanation for that.

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