Making an effort in a relationship

[Mirch]

Re: Making an effort in a relationship

@Sehrysh

A friend and I were talking the other day and one of the messages that we get from parents/relatives is, if he meets the “requirements” and you can bardasht him, love and affection and respect will happen. That sounds wrong in so many ways to me. To TLK’s point, I would feel as if I was the one to lack sincerity in that relationship and that I wasn’t being true to myself and was doing him a disservice.

If you are that kind of a person , who needs that click factor before you accept a rishta then you are doing a favor to him , yourself and your family by letting them know that it will not work that way with you.
We are all different. In most cases desi arranged shadi work like a magic and in some cases it does not. If you know for sure it is not going to work this way for you , then please let your parents and relatives know. It may require lot of effort and convincing on your part to bring your parents to same page as you are , so be it.