for those of you who moved to hubby’s state or country after getting married…was it difficult to find the type of people you actually want to befriend?
I’m asking because I have a huuuge group of friends from back home with whom I’ve always been really close. We all have so much in common we all think alike and it was just like one big family. After getting married and moving to hubby’s state, I have been unable to find ppl even remotely similar to the girls i left behind. I mean, hubby’s a doctor so all of his friends are basically doctors. It seems that when we go to parties and dinners with them all they wanna talk about is whats goin on at their jobs, rotations, patients etc etc n i’m obviously not a part of that.
i feel so excluded and the thing is i’ve never really found these things interesting. i’ve never wanted to be a doctor or anywhere near disease etc so i can’t pay attention to their convos even if i try.
the second group i’ve met out here are the stay-at-home wives who married the guys that my hubby works with. i can probably relate more to these gals cuz we have similar backgrounds but all 3 of them already have kids!!! and to be honest its like their lives revolve around changing diapers, feeding them, cleaning them, naps, etc and i just feel like i’d probably be disturbing them if i wanted to hang out or call etc.
so far i’ve only met a few girls with whom i can see a real friendship being formed but i’m sure all that’s gonna change once one of us gets pregnant and doesn’t give a crap abt anything in the world afterwards.
of course hubby n i do fun things together all the time but i always thought that i’m supposed to have a separate group of girlfriends to share girly things with. is that just a myth? is going to the movies with your girlfriends one of those things that just don’t happen after marriage? i mean, its only been 3 months so i guess i should give it more time but still…i feel so hopeless in the “friends” department sometimes 