Its patterned on some show I’ve seen on TLC - in which families/friends nominate someone to get a make-over done.
They had their first episode last night and I have to say the concept is good, albeit stolen, but that they just don’t show enough in detail - a few clips of the girl picking out some clothes from a boutique…rather than letter her figure out what to pick out and then coaching her on fashion tips…
Anyway, I wanted to bring the topic up because I was sooooo furious with what I saw last night, and the sad thing is that there is little I can do about it except vent on here.
Two husbands had nominated their respective wives for a make-over. The first one was married at a young age and was supposedly a total hottie at the time. The husband said that her appearance had deteriorated over time due to kids and household chores.
She was expected to, like many other ladies, to do all the household chores, and then to take care of her in-laws as well, and her sister-in-laws’ rishtays etc. With kids and all, she claimed that there was a period in which she fell into depression and she still has low self-esteem since she’s put on so much weight and her hair is yuck, etc etc.
What I found INSULTING was that the husband is saying that he
- never let her go to a beauty parlor
- kept her inside doing household chores etc.
- admitted that the way things had worked out had led to her depression, etc.
And then is STILL sitting there complaining about how he doesn’t like his wife’s appearance anymore!!!
Now, I don’t know about you, but if I had a spouse who had been depressed and had low-self esteem for whatever reason, the last thing I would do is bluntly point out that they don’t look good either. Especially when its the things I’m making my spouse do that has led to them not upkeeping their looks!!!
I mean, if you don’t like the way your spouse looks, then can’t you be gentle about telling them or at least don’t tell them to their face, but bring it in a roundabout way…like maybe take your spouse jogging with you and do a fitness program together. Or maybe plan out your diet together so that both of you are eating healthy and promoting each other to eat healthy, etc. Maybe buy your spouse a giftcard to a beauty parlor or a spa so she/he can get pampered a bit? Why go on public TV and say - “yeah, this thing here is fat and ugly and I’m tired of the way she looks - you guys do something about it”!!!
The second couple was a bit more infuriarating - the girl was pretty, but I could tell she was tense and feeling conscious of herself being judged on TV. Which I thought was pretty lousy. Bring your wife on TV and make her a showpiece. The husband said that he has a great relationship with his wife, but he’d like her to get a make-over for a nice change. That’s fine. But guess what the wife says. She says that he’s been checking out other girls A LOT as of late, and that he claims its because of her deteriorating looks. So she says that she’d like to fix herself before he goes and gets married to another woman (I suppose she was talking of polygamy).
I mean, honestly, does a wife who is doing all she can to make you feel better as a person, cooking for you, cleaning for you, raising your kids, taking care of your in-laws (all stuff that she could very well be a stubborn ass and not do - I see some girls do that and they get away with it) - then don’t you think its a little harsh for you to go on public TV and basically say “My wife sucks appearance wise - fix her”???
I’d kick my husband’s behind if he even contemplated doing something like that. And also not cook for a good month.
