Note- ok this topic was inspired by Fraudz’s reply in another post. I think it deserves to be its own seperate topic for dsicussion.
Fraudz- all their complaining and whining, eventually majority of desi girls will marry desi guys… because others just wont put up with their nakhray
This seems to be pretty much fact though for desi guys and girls both! lol
I mean come on! Both live such sheltered lives and are totally spoiled by parents who give them everything.. whether they need it or not. Then one day thier parents find them someone to marry too.
They don’t understand the compromises and responsibilities required in a relationship and how you’re actually supposed to the think about the other persons needs too (hopefully without needing to be told to!?!) they just expect it all to be perfect and their way right from the start cause that’s what they are so used to.
I don’t see how kids who grow up having everything handed to them could possibly understand how much it means to have someone care about you and do things for you simply out of the kindness of their hearts. They just seem to assume it is thier right and everyone should wait on them and answer their every whim.
I dunno I’ve met too many spoiled brats ..guys & girls both.. who have no idea how good their lives are and complain about everything.
no that's not what I meant ... but I have noticed that desi kids both guys and girls do tend to be really spoiled because of the way most of us are raised.
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*Originally posted by Sahar02: *
Also, plenty of white guys have brown girl fetishes. :p
These are just silly generalizations.
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Wow, I am glad you think being someones fetish is cool. Thats as bad as my desi boys chasing the blonds back in undergrad.
I don't know what you all have issues about guys or girls..but I am happy to be with my very Pakistani Muslim wife who like me, was born and raised in the US.
Maybe you guys should start by finding a decent friend before even thinking of marriage.
As I said in the other thread, the reason why desi girls end up marrying desi guys is becaz we girls have sharam and hayya and it takes alot for us to let our parents down ( at least thats how it is viewed) it has nothing what so ever to do with non-desi guys not putting up with us.
We are better and you all know it
As I said in the other thread, the reason why desi girls end up marrying desi guys is becaz we girls have sharam and hayya and it takes alot for us to let our parents down
**Taking your statement into account,
'desi' girls marrying non 'desi' Muslim guys are baysharams
bayhayas who let their parents down. What about the ones
who are approached and pursued by non 'desi' Muslim guys themselves.
I'm married to a Pakistani girl and very happy with her as well
not because she's a Pakistani girl but because of who she is
herself. I don't know what world you live in but there are other
Pakistani girls I have seen and do see at school and in the community
and a vast majority of them I couldn't have stood for a second!
The way they act as if only their self exists and the rest of the world
dims out in comparison. Such great misconceptions about themselves
they live with.**
Nakhrays are part of the married life.....I dont think marrying a non-desi would deprive one of this...yes u can not communicate ur nakhrays quite properly in non-desi case.
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*Originally posted by Sahar02: *
Not true. I've seen actually quite a few really nice desi girls who have had much better luck with non-desis, and mashAllah have happy marriages now.
Also, plenty of white guys have brown girl fetishes. :p
No it is true.More desi girls do end up marrying other desis.However its mainly due to the fact that they or their parents want to keep to their own kind.Some people are like that.And considering the majority of desi parents want their kids to marry other desis- its true.
But it doesnt mean gore cant put up with desi nakrey wali girls.Thats bs.I have quite a few friends and relatives married to other races, and the issue of nakhray has never come up.
arghh! That's not what I was trying to get at ...this was NOT intended to be another girl bashing thread... lol
Fraudz's comments just made me think about how spoiled and self centered kids who grow up in a house where everything is pretty much given to them... this applies to the guys & girls both..
here lemme copy paste what I had written before ...
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I mean come on! Both live such sheltered lives and are totally spoiled by parents who give them everything.. whether they need it or not. Then one day thier parents find them someone to marry too.
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They don't understand the compromises and responsibilities required in a relationship and how you're actually supposed to the think about the other persons needs too (hopefully without needing to be told to!?!) they just expect it all to be perfect and their way right from the start cause that's what they are so used to.
I don't see how kids who grow up having everything handed to them could possibly understand how much it means to have someone care about you and do things for you simply out of the kindness of their hearts. They just seem to assume it is thier right and everyone should wait on them and answer their every whim.
I dunno I've met too many spoiled brats ..guys & girls both.. who have no idea how good their lives are and complain about everything.
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The more I talk to most of my friends I realise those who are single and miserable are because they are very unrealistic and superficial in what it is they are looking for in a relationship. The supposedly important qualities in their minds ..by which they either dismiss or approve of someone ..are not even the ones that should matter!?
No it is true.More desi girls do end up marrying other desis.However its mainly due to the fact that they or their parents want to keep to their own kind.Some people are like that.And considering the majority of desi parents want their kids to marry other desis- its true.
But it doesnt mean gore cant put up with desi nakrey wali girls.Thats bs.I have quite a few friends and relatives married to other races, and the issue of nakhray has never come up.
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Right. I meant the reasons and assumptions are silly generalizations.
