No harm in hiring a maid, especially if she is good looking and flirty in nature.
...and happy Ramadan to all of you.
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well u can train ur kids to pick up after they are done, just as they do in K-G or schools ..
I have to defend PcG here hate this maid concept too, in pak we have housewifes chatting / watching dramas while paying petty money to domestic help, why cant they do something good for the society, heck even for their familes and do their own work ( this does not apply to working females of course)
In Pakistan the work is different. Washing clothes is a whole day job. No dishwashers either. Given the amount of poverty hiring a maid actually helps a family put food in their bellies. they do need to be treated with respect though. what a woman does with her time is no one else's business. So much judginess and bitterness in this thread. Meaoww
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washing cloths is a whole day job here too, its not we all have dryers at home... dishwashers dont make the work lesser, infact u have to put them in and then take them out, where as washing is done in it, the time and effort is around the same.
and u are contributing to proverty more, they money they get is peanuts!! no dont justify that they are getting paid, they have no choice but to do ur dirty work for few bucks.
what a woman does is her right, am not judging, its suprises me really.
no bitterness, would not like to trade..
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Dirty work? Last time I checked maids did a job too. Not justifying just stating a fact. How is hiring someone contributing to poverty? And yes washing clothes is very easy out of Pakistan. And dishwashers make life difficult hahaha. Right. Please glow more in your holier than thou ness
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Well if worried of their poverty, then pay them more an don't let them bring their 7 year old daughter with them to clean your house instead of being in school.
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While my anger is getting the better of me, let me give life1 some more business.
I don't get why stay at home moms/wives who talk about the virtues of being a good muslim woman who dekhs-baals her family while poo-poo'ing at working women, HIRES A MAID TO TAKE CARE OF HER HOUSE???
What dekh baal are you doing? Just following the main around and busting her arse for your own entertainment?
I don't really approve of getting maids but in some places of the world where labour is cheap and everyone seems to have one, then people who are not inclined to get maids may do so, and the stay at home home mum may allocate more of her time with her children and husband. However I think that she should still do the cooking herself for her family even if she has a maid.
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Well if worried of their poverty, then pay them more an don't let them bring their 7 year old daughter with them to clean your house instead of being in school.
Yes, child labor should be opposed at all cost. However, it is your assumption that every home or majority of homes in Pakistan have children taking care of the cleaning chores. All of my extended relatives in Pakistan have maids, cooks, drivers, gardners, etc. However, none of them have children taking care of household chores. My phopho has a live in maid and our family is sponsoring the education of her children.
It is very easyto point at people and criticize them. For change put yourself in their shoes before you decide to open another thread criticizing others.
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The whole ant-feminist argument is that women need to stay home and take care of kids PLUS do cooking/cleaning - if you can hire a maid for the cooking/cleaning part, then what are you doing with all that extra time?....
Go to gym na.... 'work out'. ;)
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pcg, that’s not really fair. Until you’ve been up round the clock with a wheezing child or children, if you’re a mom of twins as moodie and i both are, nebulizing them every 3 hours, is a task unto itself, and this was very much a daily ritual for me for about 2 years. And yes, my house was a mess because I was too exhausted from feeding, bathing, wiping asses, dealing with the barrage of occupational and physio therapists for my preemie (and yes nebulizing too)while still trying to be a wife to my husband and putting a decent meal on the table for him everyday. And I don’t know why the picture is being painted that a maid is there 24/7 while the lady of the house is eating bonbons all day. Also, what does religion and godly duty have to do with this? 
I had 3 kids in less than 2 years, preemie twins and was a SAHM up until the time my twins started school. I did not have a cleaning lady simply because we couldn’t afford one at the time on my husbands single income. Had I been able to afford bi monthly help, hell yes I would have availed the service of a cleaning lady.
I wouldn’t dare to make assumptions about your job/tasks/time management…please extend the same respect and courtesy towards those who are on the opposite end of the spectrum from you.
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they cant marry to have a wife.can they? 
hence they hire a maid:emmy:
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What a baseless argument 
Just looks like the green monster to me rearing its ugly head.
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Agreed ^
Pointless and baseless. If we just see our moms, they up bring us without the help of maid and they did well? Definitely, but the problems, needs, living style etc are way more different than now. Still in Pak culture, mostly women raise their children without the help of maids and there is a quite a portion where a female (even with no children) hire a maid for her comfortable / as per living style she want.
I agree with both , PCG and the house wives, its pointless to blame each other. It all depends on ur will. My mother still dont want a maid to do house chores, since we all working daughters, but we force her to keep becoz of our satisfaction.
So please ladies , keep smiling 
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For those who thinks SAHM should manage everything at home since she is not working actually dont have kids. Its easy to point at other but you only realize when you are in tht pisition.
Being a mum of toddler i am always on my toe, whts wrong if i call maid for extra help.
We are humans not machines.
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SAHM sit around at home doing nothing all day the same way all working women just dress up pretty, go to a plush little office, sit at their desk and file their nails all day. I guess they'll answer a phone call here and there. Oh then there's a lunch break obviously were they go to 5* restaurants and have lobster before stopping off at Chanel to pick up a new handbag. Eek silly me, that's after they've stopped at Toni and Guy to get their hair done so they can impress that colleague they have a major crush on. And after such a hard day at work they have to go home and get ready for that cocktail party the company is throwing at the opening of that new bar in town.
I don't know what dramas you're watching PGC, where the women just sit and watch tv all day while the little 7 year old maid cleans the floor with a toothbrush. By the same taken we all know working women haven't just walked off the set of sex and the city. You cannot judge anyone until you have walked a mile in their shoes. It's as simple as that.
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Upper middle class housewives are perhaps the most spoilt and privileged group of people in our society.
Their situation is very unique.
The idea behind the traditional marriage is that the husband earns while the wife does all the housework and child rearing. In case of UMC couples, the husbands do their share by toiling away at their 9-7 jobs of corporate drudgery; but the wives' supposed duties are almost completely taken over by chef's, maasi's, dai's, drivers etc.
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Some are arguing that raising a toddler is a full time job in itself and keeps women on their toes.
I'm not going to challenge that claim here, But raising a toddler is only a temporary phase in life.
What about the 2-3 years of being w/o children at the start of marriage?
What about the phase where the kids are no longer toddlers and go to school?
What about the phase when the kids have become adults?
For the greater part of their lives, Upper middle class housewives in our society don't have many duties. Specially those with plenty of domestic help.
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Upper middle class housewives are perhaps the most spoilt and privileged group of people in our society.
Their situation is very unique.
The idea behind the traditional marriage is that the husband earns while the wife does all the housework and child rearing. In case of UMC couples, the husbands do their share by toiling away at their 9-7 jobs of corporate drudgery; but the wives' supposed duties are almost completely taken over by chef's, maasi's, dai's, drivers etc.
if it works for the family then why not?
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Hiring maids explains why we have 'gol matoul', typical south asian inflated (x and z-axis inflated around the middle part) women who start complaining about 'joron ka dard', 'kamar ka dard', 'high blood pressure', etc., and eventually start visiting a 'peer baba' for 'taveez' because their husband is showing no interest in them anymore.
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Some are arguing that raising a toddler is a full time job in itself and keeps women on their toes. I'm not going to challenge that claim here, But raising a toddler is only a temporary phase in life.
What about the 2-3 years of being w/o children at the start of marriage? What about the phase where the kids are no longer toddlers and go to school? What about the phase when the kids have become adults?
For the greater part of their lives, Upper middle class housewives in our society don't have many duties. Specially those with plenty of domestic help.
do you have kids of your own? every stage has new challenges, from new born to toddler to pre school to schooling. and when you can afford a maid whts wrong in it? why ppl have issues with maids, being maid is also a job you are paying her for the work?
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Whether you are stay at home mom or working mom, married woman or single woman-you have every right to hire a maid or number of maids if you can afford and if you so desire. no one should judge you over that. and please get rid of this mentality that women are born to tend to household chores. if any woman is staying at home that does not automatically make her compelled to do the household work.