^ Mahr payment doesnt require timing...Best is if he can afford he pays in nikah time...but u know whether mahr is high or less u should feel u have to pay even u dont have same in ur pocket now but niyat should be when u have u will pay...its not abt how much when...
Best husband is whom who pays Mahr be4 his wife ask for & Best wife is whom dont ask her mahr & let her husband to pay when he can....Its Hadis of Rasool-allah
but it doesnt mean a wife should agree with any mahr that currently man has in pocket as its maybe so less...Wat if her husband will pass away while she doesnt have job & we consider her in-laws wont pay for her or her own parents cant afford her? then wat she should Do?...if she would have a reasonable mahr so she can take her mahr to start life easier & God forbide if a husband want divorce his wife if mahr should be something reasonable first Hubby wont easily think abt divorce or if he thinks he will pay something to her as her mahr so she will not face financial probllem atleast!!!
Cus in muslim countries hardly u find they share propeties in time of death or divorce between wife & husband equaly...so as Islamic laws r diffrent to protect wife...not giving a Pocket money to wife that won t cost more than a Gold set...wat can she buy with that in case of problems if her husband wont be with her?
i said Hazrat Fatima (AS) had this much mahr that with half she paid to buy all home stuff she needs & Half she kept with her...so u should say how much she recived but u should see how much it had worth for her,....a girl who buy 30,000$ jahiz mean her mahr atleast should be double according her life style AS MAHR should be in honor of girl & also caring husband's pocket...
Also mahr can be on Father in-law in case husband isnt that rich...(its optional in islamic laws)
I agree with you... in Islam everyone is equal... marriage should be based on love and friendship... not who they are and how much money they have in pocket. Also for Mehr... as per Islamic law the groom is supposed to pay half of the mehr at the time of nikkah and remaining half if unfortunately they get divorced.
I don't know where ur getting this dodgy info from (along with 'as per Islamic law') but there is nothing written about the groom needing to pay half at nikkah and half at divorce. It's perfectly fine (and less messy) to pay the whole lot up front if he wants to get it out of the way. It's obvious that if it's left till they divorce it's likely the groom may not even pay up due to the bad feelings and the breakup of the marriage.. doesn't make much sense if u think about it to pay only half the mehr and leave the rest for if/when they divorce..
^ Deeba is right, the mahr should be paid as soon as it can be paid and it is due whenever the wife asks for it. And if in case of divorce or death it has still not be paid, then it must be given immediately. But it is not from Islamic law to pay half and the other half is only due at divorce. If the wife wishes, she can request the full payment right away and the husband must pay it
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but it doesnt mean a wife should agree with any mahr that currently man has in pocket as its maybe so less...Wat if her husband will pass away while she doesnt have job & we consider her in-laws wont pay for her or her own parents cant afford her? then wat she should Do?...if she would have a reasonable mahr so she can take her mahr to start life easier & God forbide if a husband want divorce his wife if mahr should be something reasonable first Hubby wont easily think abt divorce or if he thinks he will pay something to her as her mahr so she will not face financial probllem atleast!!!
Cus in muslim countries hardly u find they share propeties in time of death or divorce between wife & husband equaly...so as Islamic laws r diffrent to protect wife...not giving a Pocket money to wife that won t cost more than a Gold set...wat can she buy with that in case of problems if her husband wont be with her?
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The mahr is a gift from the husband to the wife, its not an insurance policy in case of divorce
The clause for taking an Umrah or going for Hajj etc is not Mehr, haq Mehr is part of Nikkah that has to be done. It can be monetary or it can be jewellery or it can be property but it has to be something that the wife can use incase something happens to the shohar. There is a section in the Nikkah naama where you can add other conditions since the Nikkah naama is essentially a contract. You can make it as specific or as general as you like, so you can say that the husband is supposed to bring flowers to the wife everyday, i.e. that can be part of the contract or in this case go for Hajj every other year.
Mahr isnt only a Gift like u pay for someone birthday! its a Gift & in islam everything has its own reasons...many times in islam women take less than men like if a women die then her blood money is half of men or doughter take less from father due to sons r head of family & also women's Job Permission is on husband so after all this Mahr came that women can suport her life in case hubby wont be there...so it should be paid to wife when she marry u or when she asks u...AND its absoultly for women insurance...if u pay in nikah time so can save & earn from it or in case she didnt take in nikah in divorce time or when hubby will pass away she can take it...its Gift that Help wife in order to many rights Husband has for wife!
Mahr isnt only a Gift like u pay for someone birthday! its a Gift & in islam everything has its own reasons...many times in islam women take less than men like if a women die then her blood money is half of men or doughter take less from father due to sons r head of family & also women's Job Permission is on husband so after all this Mahr came that women can suport her life in case hubby wont be there...so it should be paid to wife when she marry u or when she asks u...AND its absoultly for women insurance...if u pay in nikah time so can save & earn from it or in case she didnt take in nikah in divorce time or when hubby will pass away she can take it...its Gift that Help wife in order to many rights Husband has for wife!