Madly in Love...

Lifestyle Relationships
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Re: Madly in Love...

let me get back to my project report .. software tamper resistance .. last chapter to go .. :| due at 7

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:hmmm:

are u gonna get married?:hmmm:

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for sure .. inshAllah .. sunnat hai .. :D .. lolz!

you just looked at the -ve sides of my arguments, that i am not gonna get married. why din you look at this way that whoever i am gona get married would not have those problems which happen to every other girl .. ??? .. .. the importance, the respect the trust .. .. .. ..

kuch samjhi? .. ..

my reason of write those things is my experience that i have noticed in every so called "love cry babies" .. who brag about love .. "i m in love .. i m in love" and they don't even know a **** about those relationship .. maturity matters when it comes to a mature relationship

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It isn’t THAT bad, I never believed in love… have always been the independent sort… got married at the age of 28 cuz I wanted a family, my home and my kids. It took me 2-3 years to develop love-like feelings for my husband, not that I told him that :wink: he thinks I’ve always been in love with him from the beginning… I’m still totally independent, but I do have that emotional tie with him which does NOT stem out of dependency.

Yes I do rant sometimes about little things sometimes, but it doesn’t mean I don’t love him. I care about him, he is the most handsome guy in the world to me except when he puts on weight :cb: and then I bug him to go to the gym.

Sure, he is not perfect and i know his shortcomings but I do love him a lot and there is a LOT I would do for him if needed, and he would do for me too. We have that trust and respect in our relationship as well as an attachment and feeling of fondness/caring… I think that qualifies as love, no??

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I don’t want to start on “love after marriage” stuff .. just a little question to you .. .. .. could be harsh but i have no words except it to make u realize the situation.

DON’T GET OFFENDED .. i apologize in advance

even if you have a dog for 10 years, would not you feel attached to it .. .. will miss it if its not around .. .. .. ???

love after arrange marriage is more like a compromise .. since “you don’t have an option except him” .. .. .. ..

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"You don't have an option except him"

^LOL. Men AND Women.......ALWAYS......have the option of leaving their partner for other fish in the sea. I imagine that when you love the other person....such an option is not something that one would resort to so easily. People also have the option of making their relationship work...or letting it deteriorate. They also have the option to compromise or be rigid.

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similarly you can say for love marriages that "not that the one you found is the best its just that u did not met better person before you met the one you are in love with"

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@Decent 6Chora: (why there is 6 in your name .. :s) … … first of all i don’t believe in love shove .. secondly .. .. if people claim it love marriage .. then they might have gone out together before the marriage.

remember, marriage imposition is way stronger on a person by the society compared to normal “commitment” .. thats why there are lots of break compared to lots of divorces ..

@redvelvet: I can see these tendency in people to make the relationship work from the very forum .. :slight_smile: .. lol

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But with all marriages be it arranged or love, there is always compromise. You never really know someone until you live with them.
As for Love....love does exist but i think u cant be only in love with one person at a time. And there are different levels of love, some people you fall in love and out of love quickly, some you stay in love with for the rest of your life.
Awww i wish life was a fairytale....no complications in finding Mr/Mrs right and having a wonderful and happy life with them.

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Haha, so I got you started on love after marriage. And no, I'm definitely not offended :)

See, dogs give you unselfish love so you do get attached to them.... spouses (in this day and age) usually don't :p

IMHO human relationships are complex, you may live with a person for 10 years and get attached or become emotionally dependent on that person but that will not feel like love.

We've made it through difficult times, he has yelled at me and I at him, we have had one MAJOR fight which was God-awful, but we somehow made it through. I don't want to sound sappy but I feel tenderness for him when I sit with him and I do things for him going out of my way, which I definitely wouldn't for anyone else (except my parents and kids). I think thats all love is, baaqi I love you, can't live without you, etc is CRAP.

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:d6c:

I just finished this crap with my wife 15/20 min ago ! :smiley:

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Haha, mr. smarty pants... you couldn't figure that out..... 6 as in chay (the number six, Urdu mein), so he is decent chichora :p

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God .. will you guys leme finish my project .. :p .. .. Will get back to it later .. ..

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i figured out .. but i wanted to hear it from someone else .. i.e. "chachora" .. .. :D .. .. ..

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^hawww.... iss ko kehtey hain doosray kay kaandhay par rakh kar bandooq chalaana.

Go back to your project NOW. I have a craving for ice cream anyways, so going away from my desk in 5 mins :D

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these days we have movies and television for our entertainment. but in olden days people have baaitakhs where they would in groups and share these folk stories (after a long tiring day spending on farms).

though they are myths but the relationship between a man and woman is there since the beginning of mankind, but since contemporary issues and problems are more tangible therefore everything we see is coated with money.

If the human life is devalued to the level that we dont hesitant before killing anyone, then what status any love would stand in our lives.

we feel more secure paying our monthly bills then thinking of what our better half or fiance or anyone related to us, think about us or do they even love us any more?

however, the facts remain there that Ishq-e-bandagi takes one to its Malik-e-Haqiqi, and if you are at that level of ishq, then you dont need anything else.

so your conjecture of spending life without love is full of flaws, because whether we are in love or not, we are constantly questioning our existence, and until this question is there we are bound to love.

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have you read 3 novels .. ishq ka ain .. ishq ka sheen and ishq ka kaaaf?

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nope. why?

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emm .. .. made me feel so since you referred to ishq haqeeqi and ishq e majazi

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lol…i didnt mention anything directly about ishq-e-majazi :hehe:

i said that cuz Huqooq-ul-bad comes before Huqooq-e-Allah. so if you want to understand ALLAH SWT you have to treat humans correctly.
anyways, i need load more space to explain this idea that we human are Ashrful Muqlook for a reason, and if we fail to understand the idea of love and how to love then we also fail to be Ashrful-Maqlook

ps. novels you mentioned aren’t just for the sake of good read, you have to take good thing from them and implement them in your real life.