why is it that in pak or basically everywhere there is standard set among desis about a larki’s specifications. for e.g mainay apni khala se pocha ke larki kaisi honi chahiye unkai betay ke liye. she started telling me figures!! figures for god’s sake!! itni lambi honi chahiye, complexion yeh wali honi chahiye etc etc
larkiyan insaan hain ke machine jo pehle hi sari specifications tyaar hoti hai larkiyoon kai liye. this is so unfair agar thora sa bhi pora nahi hai to phir rishta nahi lai kai gaye. aur to aur i have experianced “aap bari lambi hai meray betay ke saath achi nahi lagay gi”
i think desi aunti do idealize spouse for their kids, be it for girl or boy.
and machines doesnt come in to this at all. these are human features they are asking for, they know they will not get full spec but wishing for it is not a sin though, but its very narrow mindedness.
being tall is suppose to be good, i believe khala will not say, "tum lambi ho mera beta tumharay sath acha nahi lagay ga" they are good in turing good things of other into negetives.
So!!..Good riddance to people like that..Being Tall is a Good thing…I have always been called so many names by cousins and friends when I was growing up…But now Im like "U wish u were too!!! …
But any way Aunties have specifications just like the girl’s mother might have too concerning wat the guy should be career wise/family wise etc…Tough thing but both girls and guys face such discrimination in our desi arranged marraige system …
personally i believe its not the fault of our aunties, they just look out for us and coz they care for us, they want what is best for their bhatriyas and bhateejaz.
Aishaindubai I use to get pretty upset when hearing guys discuss what they want in their future wife, however don't we girls do the same thing? I know I am picky and have an image of the type of man I would like to marry. It's natural and we all do that. I think the only difference is that men/mothers might concentrate more on the physical aspect and females usually focus more on the other attributes.
Insh'Allah shaadi aik he bar hoti hai...so why shouldn't people want what they consider 'ideal' for themselves?
how do physical features of our spouses "look out" for us? aunties just care about these physical features so that they can flaunt them in their whole family and parade around like a new poodle.
This thread made me laugh cos its so true! Ive heard ppl saying this and im like rah man! They have specific ideas almost like they want a robot not a bahu!
this is soo right i also have heard this, i believe the reason is so that the son dont look dumb and so the wife dont have controll over her husband, and bechaara the husband is just left to follow orders and go out and buy a bottle of milk and drop the kids off at school and nothing else.
just plain silliness IMHO. I'm about 4 inches taller than my beloved hubby and 3 yrs older. although I feel like an awkward, old giraffe from time to time, its mostly just wedded bliss. kiss my patookah you desi aunties!!! lol!!!
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