People make mistakes whether you are a parent or not. They may make a decision that is nothing but plain wrong. At the time they may not realise but later it hits that what they did was a huge mistake. As for my parents, we look back and realise that they never supported us in various aspects. I wish they were morre supportive. The lack of support lead to my brother loosing out on a talent that he had embeded in him since he was 5. All he needed was encouragement and parents supprt which he never had. It’s sad when I see other people supporting their children with the same thing. Why my parents did this? I don’t know. C’mon guys share your anecdotes
P.S. let me emphasise on something WE ARE NOT HERE TO COMMENT ON MY ANECDOTE. I AM ASKING YOU TO SHARE YOUR STORIES. PARENTS are mahan I get that so please just stick to the topic. Thanks in advance peeps
SOme parents dont know in the beginning what to do.
Like my parents. They were new parents in the US, away from their families and made mistakes too. There was no one around to teach them anything or show them the ropes. Overall, I would say we turned out pretty decent though.
Well if kid has the talent to be a good singer , then some parents might take it as a good thing and some might say its being 'mirasi' . So it depends what talent it was . Lets suppose he has the talent of learning new language , then I don't think so any parent will discourage that .
Its very easy to blame parents for everything , but in this time and age , with all the advanced countries we are living in , if a kid can do all the dumb stuff online , then he can also polish his talent .
Namaan: I don't think you can understand what i'm saying. Parents are mahaan we all know that. There's a time and age for everything. There are certain things you are better off with enhancing them at a very young age and not when you're 20. Everyone knows singing is something which can be polished at any age. I'm talking about other things. Desi parents tend to discourage their kids from a lot of professions. The only reason I am doing Law is because of my parents. Do I like it? Hell no lol will I pursue anything with this degree? Certainly not in the field of law. I originally wanted to do something I like but I was totally discouraged from it. Infact my sibling was too. I wanted to be a designer or stylist. I was told " yeh darzion wala kaam hai, koi dhang ka kaam karo". I don't think they realise that when you don't like something you might study it just for their sake but it's like wasting 4 years of your life and their money ofcourse. Later on you can always burn that degree because there's no point in even having something you're not interested in.
parents do make mistakes...but they do it with the best intentions. its easy to criticize but even in their mistakes their is so much love and sacrifice. i mean your parents didn't allow you to become a designer and forced you to do law...even though that probably meant alot more tuition money for your undergrad and then grad school. atleast they paid for you to get a degree which was valuable in their mind...its better than the type of parents who say "do whatever you want with your life as long as you don't bother us or our retirement fund". This doesn't happen much but the parents who marry their daughters off at age 18 and just tell the dude that now he's in-charge of whatever she does including whether she goes to college is pretty similar to that careless approach.
my mom often shares how she always wanted to do a Masters but her parents just got her married etc and just focused on all of her brothers' education. funny thing is i accuse my parents of doing the same (gender discrimination between bros and I) even tho now i'm doing a phd. lol. so i guess each generation has issues with the parents now matter how far we go.
^ MKD I do understand your point , but our whole thought process is based on financial situation we live in , and what the people will think about us . A very reason that we don't have any scholars in Pakistan , and more and more Engineers and doctors . The reason being that an engineer and doctor can make good money . I think it would have been same in your case when your parents told you to go for a law degree .
My point was that if your parents are not pushy and just not encouraging you for a certain profession then go out and discover it yourself . My both the degrees were totally different then what my parents wanted me to do . Rather in reality they thought that if he can't be a doctor or engineer like my other siblings then he can't do anything . So let him do whatever :D . . . So again , point is that our parents have experiences from past . Like from 20-30 years back . It is hard for them to advise us about our future . So we need to go out and discover our ourselves .
My parents were wonderful to us, but I wish they didn't care so much about what 'people' thought. My eldest sister suffered a lot because of that. However, that one bad experience changed things to a great extent. They realized 'people' didn't matter, and ended up having more faith in their kids than the rest of the 'relatives'.
